Thank you everyone for your kind words. I cannot begin to imagine the overwhelming pain that my brother must feel. I think there was a lot of emotional blackmail involved in his abuse and I recognise patterns of this in his life today - I guess taught by his dad. I try not to visit this site often in hope that my brother is posting anonymously, but sometimes I feel like I have noone to turn to and the sheer number of responses makes me feel a lot better. I admire all you fighters out there, I really really do.