Hi Keith, I don't know any of the details of what happened to your partner. But he probably thinks of himself as dog shit. He is probably amazed that you saw anything in him. He is absolutely sure that once you know what happened, you will not want to be with him any more. Right now, you don't know the details, and you think he is someone worth being with, but he knows that if you knew the details, you would also think that he is dog shit and leave. That is it in a nutshell. That is only one of the negative thoughts he is having.
I will never ever tell any of my loved ones about what happened to me in detail. I was able to put it on here, only because if I should meet one of you in real life, you will not know that I am the Lostcowboy.
PS: for your reading pleasure, Male Rape, Facts about Men and Rape