I thought instead of adding to the other thread I would start this one to say hello and welcome.
You are right, being a partner is difficult and isolating--this place has made it a little less so for me. I hope you keep posting. Especially with the second-guessing myself. Sometimes reading what others have done makes me surer of what I should be doing (even if they didn't mean it that way
I don't have to worry about bringing up the topic with other people in my boyfriend's life who know about it--I'm the only one
--reading your post made me think about it though... sounds like a terrible conversation to be stuck in.
Take care of yourself,