Kolisha - the only way we can stop this kind of behaviour is when we truly begin to recognise it within ourselves. That's when we can move on! 32 years for me to even raise the topic, 34 years to ask for real support. Still difficult once those steps have been made, but I find it's a bit like going to hospital with a broken leg, they give you crutches for support. I had a broken mind and went to my friends, they are my crutches everyday (as is my Therapist weekly).
Best wishes ...Rik
*Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up.
*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!