the main thing is to tell him if you can. i remember my previous marriage when there was extreme discomort for her during intimacy. we both made a mistake in not talking about it and i became more estranged with each year that passed. from the guy's perspective the only thing that seems to be expressed is that no intimacy is wanted. this is early in the marriage so things are especially sensitive. i don't know your husband so i can't say what he would be thinking with any degree of reliability. what i can do is to say that if your husband is a decent, mature man then all he needs is for you to share what the problem is if you can. otherwise the silence will make it progressively worse and any number of things can happen. most men love their wives dearly and want nothing more than to help them, if they know there is a problem that is not sourced with him. if he thinks it is something he did or did not do then it will only get worse. pm me if i can be of more help. i know this response is somewhat stilted, but i would love to help you understand him more and perhaps help in divulging this tragedy from your past. most men want to help, but we need to know how and that is where talking comes into play. take care.
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