The anger was the hardest for me to let go of because I was always taught to keep those feelings at bay. When I was little, I didn't have the right to be angry, not by my perp, not by my parents, not by anyone. If I was angry, then I was being bad and in turn would suffer severe punishment. It is so hard to change old ways of life like that. Eventually, after working at it, you'll find that releasing anger will not cause you to have the same repercussions that you once had. You now are an adult who can fend for himself even though it doesn't feel that way sometimes.
As far as therapists go, I would not necessarily try to be too analytical. My guess would be to go with your gut. Do you feel comfortable with this person? Your gut will tell you what to do. It is important to understand that it could be harmful to you if you rush into initiating a therapist when you feel uncomfortable. No matter what, there is no time limit to recovery. It helps to take recovery in steps and do it at your own pace. Keep looking and you'll find the right person.
You ever meet someone who gives you a bad feeling in your gut the first time you meet them and you don't know why. That feeling was probably there for a reason and the same would probably apply for whatever therapists you encounter. There are good ones out there. I am living proof of that.
Good luck Duncan, PM me if you have any specific questions.
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