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#54514 - 06/03/05 12:10 AM not dealing well
scooter Offline

Registered: 05/23/05
Posts: 76
I am just not dealing with things well right now. I'm falling apart. I can't get hold of my wife to talk to her. I just hurt right now.

I told my parents about the abuse yesterday. They validated every feeling I had with their own memory. They tried so hard to protect me as a child. They are so broken too. We're now worried that my brother went through the same thing. I have more memories. I can't take this right now. I know I'm strong but it's killing me to the core right now.

Thank you for being a place to turn.

#54515 - 06/03/05 12:20 AM Re: not dealing well
sophiesdad Offline

Registered: 04/30/05
Posts: 462
Loc: Florida
So sorry to hear that you're not feeling well, but it's very understandable. You've been through the worst of it - "letting out the secret". Now the healing can begin. There will be good and bad days and all of you will go thru a flood of emotions. Just make sure that you all give yourselves a "break" each day to do something simple, but enjoyable. At least for me, it's better when I stay active - it provides little "distractions" throughout the day rather than dwelling on the feelings.
Keep writing - we're here to support you.


There are no unresolved issues - they just didn't resolve themselves the way we would have liked. "Grinder and Bandler - Neuro-Linguistic Programming"

#54516 - 06/03/05 12:37 AM Re: not dealing well
scooter Offline

Registered: 05/23/05
Posts: 76
Thank you so much. I'm going to shave and take a shower. I need to start a new project.

I'm at home with the kids today. How do I talk to them about it? They are 6 and younger. I don't want them to be nervous. They know I'm sad. My wife and I have told them that I am sad because of some stuff when I was a boy, but it has nothing to do with them. I am so happy and proud of them and my sadness has nothing to do with them. We also try to reaffirm that mom and dad are so in love and happy.

I don't know what to else to say to them right now. But I am feeling better. I'm going to go and play with them. Thank you.


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