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#521182 - 02/20/18 10:48 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
smichael Offline


Registered: 12/13/17
Posts: 59
I am realizing I am using porn as this way of finding a release like to just let ,self escape. I have done this for longer than I want to admit. I am now realizing this is an issues for me. I have said this to myself before but I always fail and go back to it.

I was exposed to it at a young age and now with the internet it is just so easy to go there.i tell myself that at least it is safe as if to try to tell myself it is ok to do this. At times I wish I had no sexual urges because I go through this up and down emotional trip.

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#521194 - 02/21/18 01:14 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: smichael]
SDD757 Offline


Registered: 10/08/17
Posts: 320
Loc: Chesapeake, VA
Well, it's an issue if it's an issue to you. You have a sexual behavior that you can't seem to stop. Obviously, there is a connection to hormones, stress and anxiety levels. If it interferes with your life, relationships and well being then it's self destructive. This is something you'll have to determine. Depending on your religious convictions, masturbation and porn aren't bad.

I would put porn in a whole different category. There are ethical considerations. Again, it's just my feelings. Not everyone has to agree.

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#521230 - 02/22/18 10:12 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
smichael Offline


Registered: 12/13/17
Posts: 59
I guess my issue is that the porn is part of the memories from my childhood. I think that is what causing me the most guilt. I regret using the memories and porn at times. There are times it does not bother me but now I seems to be a greater issue. I know masturbation is normal and should be healthy. I just feel I use it in the wrong manner.

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#521241 - 02/23/18 09:16 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
SDD757 Offline


Registered: 10/08/17
Posts: 320
Loc: Chesapeake, VA
Do you think the guilt has something to do with your past and upbringing. Was masturbation discourage or were you made to feel ashamed of it?

I was caught many times as a teen. My stepdad, I believe, would suspect I was doing it and barge into my room and ridicule me for it. Serious, he was doing the SAMETHING.

I've accidently walked in on my children (door was open) and apologized and promptly left. I don't want them ashamed of exploring their bodies and sexuality...

It's normal human behavior...


Edited by SDD757 (02/23/18 09:23 AM)

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#521242 - 02/23/18 10:00 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: SDD757]
manipulated Offline
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Registered: 09/25/14
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Originally Posted By SDD757
It's normal human behavior...



EXACTLY

But the guilt and shame is used by religion and governmental laws to control and manipulate the people. Much like perpetrators groom and manipulate. Coincidence?
_________________________
.Be who you are and say what you feel
...............Because those who mind don't matter
............And those who matter don't mind.
.......................-- Dr. Seuss

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#521245 - 02/23/18 12:19 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: manipulated]
SDD757 Offline


Registered: 10/08/17
Posts: 320
Loc: Chesapeake, VA
Yes the purity culture has caused a lot of damage...

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#521325 - 02/26/18 10:13 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
smichael Offline


Registered: 12/13/17
Posts: 59
For e it is not a religious or upbringing it was actually just the opposite. I was raised knowing what masturbation was and told it was normal. Which I agree but I guess for me it was cause at a young age I was allowed to look at porn magazines and I masturbated to them. At the age 11 my older neighbors involved me in sexual activity. Now I feel shame in doing this especially to my childhood memories. I know I am not doing anything wrong persee in the act but it the memories and the use of porn that now I feel like I am sick. Like all together what I am doing is wrong.

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#521326 - 02/26/18 10:22 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
SDD757 Offline


Registered: 10/08/17
Posts: 320
Loc: Chesapeake, VA
Some one on MS said that we should stop looking at our sexuality through the lens of right and wrong (my paraphrase).

Being exposed to sexual content at a young age is abuse. It's obviously abuse with the neighbors.

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