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#516181 - 10/13/17 08:09 PM physical or psychological?
Greg56 Offline
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I stopped having sex with my wife in 1995, we were married until 2010. This didn't really bother me as it was at that time I began to dislike her. I "took care of myself". I'll be 61 next week.

Then a couple of years ago I realized that I was only "taking care of myself" every couple of months. During this time, I don't even think of sex in any form. Then there comes a day, where it seems like that is all I think about. I "take care of myself" and then its gone for another couple of months.

I asked my primary doctor and my Urologist about this...they didn't respond and kept doing what they were doing. I don't know if there is a doctor that can or would be willing to answer this question or not. Any comments would be greatly appreciated.

It's not that it really bothers me...just a question.


Edited by Greg56 (10/13/17 08:14 PM)
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#516183 - 10/13/17 08:51 PM Re: physical or psychological? [Re: Greg56]
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Registered: 05/16/17
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Loc: NY / NJ Area
A medical doctor may not want to try to answer that, or be able to.

Their main concern is whether your parts are working or not. This seems more of a psychological issue....

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#516191 - 10/13/17 11:16 PM Re: physical or psychological? [Re: Greg56]
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yes, when those days happen...when I get the urge...everything works fine.

Greg


Edited by Greg56 (10/13/17 11:28 PM)
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#516208 - 10/14/17 03:36 PM Re: physical or psychological? [Re: Greg56]
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I've been thinking about this post since I wrote it. I usually think more clearly if I write things down.

As for physical: I think that the urges may be physical. I don't know...maybe I/we need to relieve some kind of physical sexual issue for some reason.

As for psychological: It's probably that I just don't care. I don't think it's related to any demonizing on my part. Most likely we are all different in our approach to this.

Greg
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#523588 - 05/09/18 04:34 PM Re: physical or psychological? [Re: Greg56]
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Registered: 04/26/18
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I do that a lot myself.
I'm 37. I've been married for 19 years.

I have an extremely hyper my sex drive which is impulsed by physical touching (kissing, holding hands, soft touch, firm touch...) -- I am also visually aroused by her, even after 19 years. --- and I didn't realize it until sooner, but she's not the reason for my hyper arousal like I once thought she was.

I can go a two days between big urges. I want to have sexual gratification inside myself once to twice a month at least. I don't usually get that feeling, and I often shy away from what that feeling of gratification offers me.

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#523589 - 05/09/18 04:35 PM Re: physical or psychological? [Re: matthewgg37]
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I've been Married for 16 years..... together with her for 19 years...... there's been a lot of ups and downs, as anyone can imagine.

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#523592 - 05/09/18 06:22 PM Re: physical or psychological? [Re: Greg56]
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Registered: 10/08/17
Posts: 297
Loc: Chesapeake, VA
Most likely physiological. Testosterone levels and psychological.

I wish I could go a few months without thinking about it. It's a good day if I don't...

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