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#51116 - 07/14/06 08:45 AM I took a break, a mistake
Derdlecar Offline

Registered: 11/08/05
Posts: 1316
Loc: Ogden Utah, USA
I took a break from MaleSurvivor. Didn't come around much. Oh I would log in and read a few posts but didn't reply much or post very often. I was going slow.

I learned something. I learned that if I am not actively growing, I'm dying. Oh I suppose I could have taken a break from the MS boards and been ok if I had continued to work on healing in some other way but I just took a break from it all and started to slip back to where I was months ago.

So here I am, getting back on track.

Love ya,


If a man would get his life on track, he must first go back to the place where it was derailed.

#51117 - 07/14/06 08:57 AM Re: I took a break, a mistake
Hauser Offline

Registered: 11/12/05
Posts: 2963
Loc: United States
Perhaps it just wasn't quite that right time for you to move on huh? Some like to stay even after recovery. I think I will always find my was back here, once in a while, just to see if there is someone with a story that I might be able to share with or relate to or help with.

#51118 - 07/14/06 09:15 AM Re: I took a break, a mistake
Elad 12 Offline

Registered: 02/15/05
Posts: 1176
Loc: on the coast
Hi Darrel,

It's nice to see you here agian. It's not the same without you. I appreciated the PM the other day. I like having you around. Your a good friend.


#51119 - 07/14/06 11:26 AM Re: I took a break, a mistake
WalkingSouth Offline

Registered: 08/30/05
Posts: 16270
Yeah, I noticed you were absent a lot, but everyone else has been gone a bunch too. Figured it was just the way things are in the summer.

Glad you're back.

Love you, Bro.


"Life's journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting 'Holy Shit! What a ride!'" ~Hunter S. Thompson

#51120 - 07/14/06 12:54 PM Re: I took a break, a mistake
reality2k4 Offline

Registered: 07/06/04
Posts: 6845
Loc: Stuck between water, air, and ...

its OK to slow down, I do it.
At least you are showing that you need to take care of yourself, and do things in your own time.

Take it easy,


Whoever stole the Sun, put it back and we'll drop all the charges!

#51121 - 07/14/06 11:12 PM Re: I took a break, a mistake
Paul1959 Offline

Registered: 05/17/06
Posts: 525
Loc: NYC
Same thing sort of happened to me from the middle of June to the first of July. You're right, if you're not growing, you're dying. It's sort of painful to get back into it...denial is such a nice place to be...kidding...sort of.
Glad you're back!

#51122 - 07/14/06 11:53 PM Re: I took a break, a mistake
EGL Offline
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Registered: 06/19/04
Posts: 7821
Hi Darrel,

The way I think of it is the way they do physical therapy or exercise - if you can't feel the pain, then it's not working. It's the same with healing emotionally from all this. If we're working at it, but it all feels fluffy and good, well, we're probably not making much progress.

Glad to have you back on board. Your insights are always helpful to me.


#51123 - 07/18/06 02:29 AM Re: I took a break, a mistake
RICK57 Offline

Registered: 12/31/03
Posts: 1611
Darrel - sometimes I come here and post every night. Other times I say nothing for weeks. There are no rules other than: "We do what is best for us at the time"

This place is about us...this is one place where we are all important! Use it for what you need, that puts you in a better place to help others.

Be strong, best wishes ...Rik

*Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up.
*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!

#51124 - 07/18/06 10:03 PM Re: I took a break, a mistake
shadowkid Offline
WARNING from ModTeam, September 2013: user "Shadowkid" was exposed as a hoaxer. His entire online persona and stories of sexual abuse were fiction. We encourage you not to become emotionally concerned by anything you see in any of his posts. Thank you

Registered: 11/18/05
Posts: 2437
i only stay away when i'm too ashmed of myself to talk .

its not hard to fall
when you float like a cannonball - damien rice

#51125 - 07/19/06 12:47 AM Re: I took a break, a mistake
roadrunner Offline
Administrator Emeritus

Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA

It's already a great thing when we can view ourselves honestly enough to see what we need to do. I am so glad you returned. I have been erratic myself in past weeks, and I assumed that you were on vacation or busy with other things.

Much love,

Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

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