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#502733 - 10/16/16 05:22 AM Social drinkers
Tryingtolive Offline

Registered: 02/15/15
Posts: 576
I write this cause I'm wondering if any other survivors social drink.
I do a lot of thinking and am always conscious when I drink.
Im always wondering if I drink too much.
And If I'm not drinking at all I feel there's always that's edge for me to take a beer.

I will add I feel peer pressured when I'm around friends.
I dont believe I have a problem with alcohol but mixing alcohol with emotions isn't the smartest idea I've come to find out.

If u are a social drinker dealing with Csa how do you go about it.?
After a night out with friends I'm always even more down on myself Cause I know I'm numbing myself out. It's a lot easier putting on the mask when u have a few beers

I enjoy myself that's the main thing but at the same time I feel like I should be avoiding the bar.

If anyone is a social drinker do u still feel down on yourself for Drinking . Even regretting it the next day.

The bar/drinking is a way for me to be more social but it does impact my health.
I'm afraid of leaving my friends and feeling the comradery /don't know if I use that word right but oh well

I sometimes feel when im out with my friends that I have to be the smart/funny/jokester
I can never be in a alright mood. I tell the jokes everyone laughs. I always want everyone to have a good time even though I might not be but it comes to bite me in the ass when I end up drunk and I'm huritng a few hours later. If I end up drunk that is no longer social drinking. Which leads me to think I might have a problem. I drink 1-2 a week usually just weekends but sometimes I feel I even have to limit that and might just try going sober

#502759 - 10/16/16 03:49 PM Re: Social drinkers [Re: Tryingtolive]
Sterling Offline

Registered: 10/25/08
Posts: 1382
Loc: Winnipeg, Manitoba,Canada
I cant drink sociably .
I feel much better without the alcohol.

What's wrong with being honest Tryingtolive?

" I don't feel like drinking tonight , can we do something else?
, coffee, dinner, movies, play boardgames ?
There is tons to do w/o alcohol ....
I found when I stopped drinking emotions surfaced that needed
to feel ; loneliness, abandonment issues, followed by anger.
You have your intelligence , your personal insight based on
your experiences is waiting...
I was concerned about losing my sense-of-humor if I quit drinking.
"What will I do, if I don't drink? What if I am not funny?
What if they don't like me ? "
These are my questions years ago...
But what about your health? What about loving yourself?
Your friends might think it's admirable to take a break...
It isn't forever!!
Get to know you. Your inner self is waiting...
This might have sound boring, it's just my two cents.
Thanks and wish you well!



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