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#485923 - 07/22/15 06:20 PM deleted
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#486726 - 08/09/15 09:15 AM Re: Not being a good practicing catholic [Re: Tryingtolive]
DavidM-LT Offline


Registered: 07/28/15
Posts: 52
Loc: Lithuania
I can promise you that you're not bad, and God is there with you. The abuse that was done to you is certainly not in anyway punishment from God. That's a promise.
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#486730 - 08/09/15 10:13 AM Re: Not being a good practicing catholic [Re: Tryingtolive]
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Tryingtolive

You need not worry. I too have been on the outs with the Church. As I struggled with abuse in recent years, I could not face the church. A woman who came into my life made me feel safe and helped with return to the church. No pushing on her side, she went and I would wait until she returned. Eventually I returned to a collegiate setting, the universities chapel. A much more inclusive message than some of the more traditional churches. While she was here I would attend, feeling safe with her there. But she is not here now and I found myself feeling unsafe when I attended alone. I stopped going. When she returned several weeks ago, we went and I felt safe and the memories were silent. Alone, the memories reappear. Why I am not sure but hopefully one day I will be able to continue a reconnection by myself. In the interim I keep my distance. I believe in God and I know he is watching. I believe He knows there is a time and place when I will reconnect with the institution but until that time I am confident He is still is watching and looking over me. I do not blame God, it was a human who abused me and put my life in a spiral. God gave the abuser choice and unfortunately one of his choices was me.

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#486738 - 08/09/15 11:54 AM Re: Not being a good practicing catholic [Re: KMCINVA]
LinEar Offline


Registered: 06/02/15
Posts: 408
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Originally Posted By: KMCINVA
God gave the abuser choice and unfortunately one of his choices was me.


Thanks. Needed to hear it.
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#486749 - 08/09/15 03:44 PM Re: Not being a good practicing catholic [Re: Tryingtolive]
DavidM-LT Offline


Registered: 07/28/15
Posts: 52
Loc: Lithuania
That is am excellent way of putting it: God gave the abuser choice, and unfortunately,one of,his,choices,was me.

Very well put. Thank you
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#486751 - 08/09/15 05:20 PM Re: Not being a good practicing catholic [Re: Tryingtolive]
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Registered: 05/28/15
Posts: 29
Loc: U.S.
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