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#48049 - 04/11/04 07:59 AM Re: NAO EXPOSED
LupinIII Offline

Registered: 02/21/04
Posts: 156
Originally posted by I'm Alone:
She is a Fucking whore and i hope she rots and dies...only wish i could [edited] myself.
This thread is beginning to lose its productiveness and it is getting the focus away from recovery.

Just a thought.

#48050 - 04/11/04 01:34 PM Re: NAO EXPOSED
Dewey Offline

Registered: 11/13/02
Posts: 140
Loc: the sunshine state
Heather,you asked for forgiveness. You're forgiven,by me anyway. Bitterness simply isn't allowed to take up residency in my soul anymore. I choose to forgive you. When we ask for forgivness however, we should repent, [turn away from] the wrong that we inflict on another. Like the guys said, just be honest. Dan

Guys, we know all too well that Nao's do exist, probably more than any of us realize. Let's keep helping them. Even if it means laying our already wounded hearts on the altar of sacrifice.Our words of healing, her words of healing, who cares? Let the junky stuff fall off of you. You are much too valuable to take on this offense. Dan

I refuse to use my past as an excuse to not have a future.
My hero Dad; Trigger warning-

#48051 - 04/11/04 01:47 PM Re: NAO EXPOSED
crisispoint Offline

Registered: 09/24/03
Posts: 2154
Loc: Massachusetts
One other thing, you deceptive mind-rapist.

The other thing that really hurt, almost as much as the emotional rape, was that you claimed a lot of titles for yourself that are part of who I am. You claim to be a writer, a researcher, a survivor, and of having Japanese heritage. I'M a writer, journalist, researcher, and a follower of the Way of the Warrior, so that you SAY you're any of these things and just SHIT all over the meaning of what these things are is a travesty.

You also nearly killed me last night, did you know that? You triggered flashbacks, delusions, and enough re-victimization stuff to drive me to suicide. If it wasn't for the voice of one dearly-departed FRIEND from here, I'd be dead. And this is no exaggeration.

All of this was just a game to you, wasn't it? Well, thank God Almighty that it didn't have a real consequence that you'd have to live with, beyond harming a lot of your "fellow survivors."

This is the last thing I will write to you, if you have the guts to read it, and then you will be dead to me. Live with that.

Save also my promise to make sure you NEVER do this again. I think you can tell that I can be your best friend or your worst enemy. Well, sweetie, you've made me your enemy, and I will persue you to the end of the Earth to keep you from harming anybody else or profiting in any way from what you've done here.

The minute I suspect it's your book that's hit the stands, I will go to every media outlet in the New England area and make sure thedeception and lies you performed are known. I will destroy your reputation and sue you and your publisher so you will never see DIME ONE in profits.

A man who was the United States' enemy, but an honerable one, Admiral Yamamoto, said after the attack on Pearl Harbor, "I fear we have awakened a sleeping giant, and filled him with a terrible resolve."

Well, you're my wartime Japan and I'm your United States.

Scot Carr

I'll be damned if I hide from you.

There are reasons I'm taking medication. They're called "other people." - Me, displaying my anti-social tendancies

#48052 - 04/11/04 02:31 PM Re: NAO EXPOSED
blacken Offline

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Registered: 08/13/01
Posts: 1811
Loc: Northern Ohio
Oh "Heather"/Nao/BrianMiko/freak,

I am not going to change because of you. I will continue to chat & support those who come here.

Your apology doesn’t really matter either. Those words are just as empty as the rest of your lies.

I don’t actually believe your an author, and though you denied being a predator, you are.

Whatever your true motives are, they are unethical.

You are simply another perp we all have to add to our list of scum bags on this planet.

YOU SAID "most people when dealing with serious things do not want to share with an author".
I think this statement of yours is THE defining piece of evidence that you are a complete fraud.
If you would have learned even one thing during your "research", its that we ARE trying to spread the word & share our experiences.

I am not angry. I am saddened that you have not yet found the help you so despartly need, to overcome your sickness, fed by your demented lies.

I hope one day you will seek out & take hold of help & work to undo the harm you cause with such ease & lack of true remorse.

Sincerely, Blacken

#48053 - 04/11/04 03:25 PM Re: NAO EXPOSED
I'm Alone Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 02/15/04
Posts: 9
Loc: USA
sorry you dont think that anger is a productive part of healing Lupin. It is my defense and first reaction. If I dont get that out i cant move on to my other feeling

If an injury has to be done to a man it should be so severe that his vengeance need not be feared.
Niccolo Machiavelli (1469 - 1527

The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself.
Mark Twain (1835 - 1910)

#48054 - 04/11/04 04:54 PM Re: NAO EXPOSED
pedalboy Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 10/10/03
Posts: 12
Loc: kamloops, BC, Canada
I check the website about once or twice a week. I go to emails with the most replys, so I went to Nao's (heather). At first I thought it was strange for someone so young to be replying on the board. Not because of the age, but more for their safety. I also could not picture a teenager being so open and upfront about their abuse. I thought to myself I wonder if this has been on the news because it seemed like a case that had "news" potential. And than after the family and friends posting i thought, "this is complete bull shit." However, there was still a part of me that thought, "what if your wrong." So i said nothing. I kind of feel mad at myself for not expressing that i thought it sounded kind of phoney. But at the same time i didn't want to sound like an asshole. I guess if i feel that way again i will email one of the moderators. As for you Heather I think you need some serious help. You say that as an author you wanted to get more info.

You could have read the posts, and you could have read some books. It was not a very nice thing what you did.

#48055 - 04/11/04 06:00 PM Re: NAO EXPOSED
LupinIII Offline

Registered: 02/21/04
Posts: 156
Originally posted by I'm Alone:
sorry you dont think that anger is a productive part of healing Lupin. It is my defense and first reaction. If I dont get that out i cant move on to my other feeling
I never said anger isn't productive, but if you spend too much time giving this woman attention she continues to have power over this board.

#48056 - 04/11/04 08:18 PM Re: NAO EXPOSED
outis Offline

Registered: 02/27/03
Posts: 2261
Loc: Maryland USA

Like Blacken, I will not change just because you have chosen so poorly. I can read what I wrote to you as Nao in a new light now.

You don't seem to like Blacken's post. So why not stop lying to your parents? They can do a much better job keeping you safe if you are working with them.
I asked, "Why not stop lying?" Did that tug at your conscience? How about the line about "keeping you safe," did that provoke a reaction?

I think a lot of people will say things behind their login names here before they will say them face to face. I'm pretty sure that no one can make their life better until they trust the good people in their lives to help them. That's face-to-face trust.
I'm even more sure now that no one, especially I, can make life better without trusting the good people in my life. Many of the people I have met here are such good people in my life. Others will be closer to me as we get to know one another better. You were not one of them, unfortunately.

I have spoken, in some detail, of some things that happened to me to other survivors, face to face, male and female. I will speak in public to volunteers who actually do work with real abused children. Others have spoken like that, too. You could have asked counseling centers to broach the subject with some survivors. We are not all in the most fragile times of recovery. Some can and do speak to tell of the pain you claim you want to illuminate. Why could you not post in the Family and Friends as a survivor yourself, asking for help understanding male survivors? Why could you not find the many informational sites that I found when I first looked for help? Why could you not read some of the information published in books for male survivors, some including survivors' stories?

Please don't go back to that perp. His "love" is not healthy. It's not even legal. Any porn pictures he took recently just add to the list of crimes he has committed.
Your "concern" for us is not healthy. You took advantage of the people who would most need any supposed benefit from your novel. Who benefits from the story whose creation picks at our wounds in the name of opening society's eyes?

You deserve better. You can't have anything better until you step up and do your part to get it. Whether you went there or not, he should not touch you. He should not take those pictures.
You do deserve better. You deserve to treat yourself with more respect. Maybe then you can learn how to treat others with the respect and dignity we deserve.

I don't know what to make of your confession. Am I writing to a female survivor who is sorry for a terrible error in judgement? Or am I simply giving a few parting laughs to a perp?

You know what? It doesn't make a damn bit of difference. I am saying what I need to say, and if it makes you so uncomfortable that you must laugh, because I can see the dignity in myself and others but you cannot, that is not my problem. Like I said to "Nao"
You can't have anything better until you step up and do your part to get it.

"Telemachos, your guest is no discredit to you. I wasted no time in stringing the bow, and I did not miss the mark. My strength is yet unbroken…"—The Odyssey, translated by W.H.D. Rouse

#48057 - 04/11/04 09:15 PM Re: NAO EXPOSED
Reader2002 Offline
Junior Member

Registered: 05/10/03
Posts: 6
Loc: Midwest
I'm a struggling author trying to get a book published and was posing
at your site as the character in my novel
I really doubt that you have the ability to be an author. It is more likely that you needed to entertain yourself and this seemed like it would be fun for you. How sad that you do not have anything better to do with your time but to take advantage of people.

I found your apology totally unbelievable.

While I have experienced abuse myself, I didn't know how one would experience it through male eyes.
This is not an excuse for what you did. Also, you are not male. So, it would seem that makes it alright?

As a novice author I broke the first rule of infiltration - I got too emotionally involved.
Don't you mean emotionally manipulative?

I cried with you guys, for you guys.
Oh, please... give me a break. I think you enjoyed the attention you were getting... nothing more.

Many times I felt guilty because I knew all of you were pouring out your heart and soul on the website and I was only doing research.

However, the lessons you've taught me, everything I've learned from being at the site, will be a part of the book in my own words.
And yet you will still benefit by this? If you were truly an SA survivor, I would think you might have a better understanding of what it's like. Since you still plan on trying to benefit from preying on others, I truly doubt you were an SA survivor. I truly don't think you have what it takes to be an author. That's just an excuse.

Again, I just think you were entertaining yourself and got caught.

I ask that no one attempt to contact me. I will not contact any of you again.
Kinda sounds to me that you are afraid of being confronted and exposed for who and what you are. I hope you get what you deserve.

Peace to you and may God bless you,
You are so self centered "Heather".


#48058 - 04/11/04 11:57 PM Re: NAO EXPOSED
Ken Followell Offline


Registered: 12/30/01
Posts: 992
Loc: Bradenton, FL

If research from books cannot adequately give you the information you need, then the book you are writing is without point. You are a selfish immature and mean-spirited woman who needs to examine her need to exploit and manipulate others. Please do not write anything till you deal with your issues, there is already enough garbage in the world without your adding to it.


Ken Followell

Everything works out right in the end. If things are not working right, it isn't the end yet. Don't let it bother you, relax and keep on goin
- Michael C. Muhammad

"I get up. I walk. I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing."
� Rabbi Hillel

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