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#47999 - 05/20/05 09:05 AM does anybody else...
demonboi Offline

Registered: 05/14/05
Posts: 228
Loc: East Coast
when they get nervous fiddle with something like a pen or the hem of their shirt? I have a small piece of play doh with me, it helps cos i dunno, sorta takes my mind of things when I'm working. sorta like letting my subconcious mold the play doh will i work so i don't get distracted and let thoughts that i don't want to think enter my mind.

Every corner, every city
There's a place where life's a little easy
Little Hennessy, laid back and cool
Every hour, cause it's all good
Leave all the stress from the world outside
Every wrong done will be alright
Nothin but peace, love
And street passion, every ghetto needs a thug mansion

#48000 - 05/20/05 09:16 AM Re: does anybody else...
sophiesdad Offline

Registered: 04/30/05
Posts: 462
Loc: Florida
I bite my nails.

There are no unresolved issues - they just didn't resolve themselves the way we would have liked. "Grinder and Bandler - Neuro-Linguistic Programming"

#48001 - 05/20/05 06:40 PM Re: does anybody else...
FormerTexan Offline

Registered: 09/12/04
Posts: 12091
Loc: Denver, CO
Many times when I have one leg resting on the other with the foot dangling over one knee, I'll bounce the foot up and down at the ankle. Other times if I have a pen in hand I'll oscillate it between my fingers so that it looks like a blurred X. The foot thing is my most familiar thing to do.

Money talks, but all it tells me is goodbye.

If I could meet myself as a boy...

#48002 - 05/21/05 01:22 AM Re: does anybody else...
roadrunner Offline
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Registered: 05/02/05
Posts: 22045
Loc: Carlisle, PA
I have the same trick as FormerTexan - bouncing that foot around! If I am wearing slippers I get the slipper going as well. I often catch myself fidgeting around and twiddling my fingers, and since I play guitar a lot I can really get them going. If I am alone sometimes I just sit and tremble. It all drives the dog crazy because he thinks I want to play!

These things used to bother me because I figured they proved what a disaster I had become. Now I realize they are just part of the way I cope. As I move forward I will get past that stuff I think. But for the moment that works for me.


Nobody living can ever stop me
As I go walking my freedom highway.
Nobody living can make me turn back:
This land was made for you and me.
(Woody Guthrie)

#48003 - 05/21/05 02:49 AM Re: does anybody else...
ak Offline

Registered: 01/10/04
Posts: 1491
Our brain, it is of different parts. To do something, like to do something with pen or something like that, it shift things enough to help settle the brain more.

I have attention disoroder problems, and also problems with reading (and am very nervous to be starting agin with school soon, after not doing it for two years). But to help my head focus, if I am reading or listening in class, I would do that, play with a pencil, roll it back and forth in my fingers, or tap my foot. Something small physical would be enough to do that 'shift' thing, and I can focus better. I do it even here, or in chat room, I am always tapping or shaking my foot, or playing with something in the floor with my toes. I do not even think on it now, it is just natural to me to do that when I have to focus.


#48004 - 05/22/05 06:06 AM Re: does anybody else...
24yearsandcounting Offline

Registered: 11/05/04
Posts: 44
I don't recall how it started, but it hasn't been going on too long. I draw on my hands w/ my finger. I trace outlines of what I am thinking, or seeing. It is kind of meditative, perhaps out of boredom. I have grown a kind of attatchment to it thinking it is a special thing I am doing, for my own personal space etc. I do reflect on life in idle times, I ask questions and sometimes find answers, or inspiration. Those moments are about as personal as it gets with me. I draw shapes, and designs mostly. I have noticed that it has become more frequent. This is why I'm airing it out now. I can be a giving person and I do and feel this just for me. It isn't anything terribly special, and I don't want it to get obscessive, or nurotic so that is why I'm bringing it up.
I kind of think of it as the japanese 'garden' the box of sand and stones you can arrange and shape as you wish. It was novel at first, now I've become conscience about it, and it doesn't feel normal. It isn't neccessary to see the future, or feel some connection to the world. Once in a great while I'll see something in a dream or whatever and by golly I will see it for real at some future point. That happened before I started doing this, and it doesn't have anything to do with this.
I do do it to relax once in a while however. Slow dancing with a girl at a church dance (I go every month) she gently caresses my hand w/ hers as I hold her. Just a touch and I'm back there in that moment. Maybe it is some escapism, I don't know, like I said a lot of times I'm just making geometric shapes and patterns.
This kind of thing makes me think I should get into yoga, to curb anxiety, figity, possesive habits, or tendancies. I've read the articles and stuff they talk about even little things like this.


#48005 - 05/22/05 10:21 AM Re: does anybody else...
Bobby Offline

Registered: 12/01/04
Posts: 1287
Loc: Arizona
My fingers never stop moving. I am constantly tapping. Usually, if someone asks me about it, I find that I am tapping out the rhythm of a piece of music over and over again. Sometimes it drives members of my family crazy and they have to put their hand on top of mine to stop the tapping. My t said my eternal tapping was one of the ways she diagnosed my bi-polar disorder. She always checks to see how much of me is moving when I go in for a session. I have always done long as I can remember. Bobby

I'm healing now, and I wasn't sure I would.

#48006 - 05/22/05 10:26 AM Re: does anybody else...
healing_inside Offline

Registered: 03/28/05
Posts: 2007
I twiddle my toes.

I can't come to the phone right now, I am out living my life

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