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#477384 - 02/16/15 09:31 PM Used Porn as a release (*Triggers This Thread*)
Michgem Offline


Registered: 02/13/15
Posts: 14
Loc: USA, Mich
I don't know how many had/have used pron as a cover up or release from the CSA. I had myself so deep in porn and what is causes ever since high school. It wasn't till about a year ago it got to be so bad and I was viewing the most degrading porn imaginable that I had to get help.
I know the buried past and the obsession were destroying my life.
My counselor has help me stop all porn completely. I am so frustrated with what I have done and just want to make a clean restart to my life.


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#477399 - 02/17/15 04:36 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
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Judging from the guys I talk to Porn is a really common problem man. try not to beat yourself up too bad. the release that comes is an actual drug of sorts. it is just held within our own bodies! and yes I am still addicted. not so much to the porn but to that release which still brings so much shame. I hope you can be proud of what you have accomplished you deserve that, and as far as the future... it is yours to create! I am sure it will be better
Jeff
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#477414 - 02/17/15 09:51 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
Jay1946 Offline


Registered: 08/08/13
Posts: 252
Loc: Miami, Florida, USA
Originally Posted By: Michgem
My counselor has help me stop all porn completely. I am so frustrated with what I have done and just want to make a clean restart to my life.


I don't think you realize the enormity of your accomplishment. They say porn is as addictive as cocaine, so being able to stop completely is an accomplishment you should value yourself for.

From reading the posts in this website I've realized that addictions are frequently mentioned as a consequence of childhood sexual abuse.

Congratulations and our best wishes on your restart.
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#477467 - 02/17/15 11:57 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
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Loc: East Coast
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Edited by robwk1988 (04/12/15 09:03 AM)

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#477497 - 02/18/15 01:46 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
Serious Dave Offline


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Loc: OH
Michgem,

It's great that you've taken control of your recovery in this way. It takes a lot of courage to do what you've done. I've always had porn around over the years. Tossed it all a couple of years ago, bought more a year later, and then tossed that. Right now, I'm with you in the porn-free zone.

Your strength inspires me!

Dave
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#478262 - 03/03/15 11:57 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
Seekingwisdom Offline


Registered: 07/19/14
Posts: 26
Loc: California
You're a real man in that you have courage to face the porn demon and strength in your desire for change, be proud of yourself!! I have had this porn addiction for most my life and admitting my CSA from both male and female has shedded light on why I have the addiction. I'm have heavy triggers to go back right now and I want to thank you for sharing your battle because I come on MS site today to seek hope and brother you've just gave me some THANK YOU you're the man and stay the course and do so at your own pace that makes you whole again thanks for sharing wisdom.

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#478528 - 03/07/15 01:00 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
JayBro Offline


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Hi Michgem,

Good for you for reaching the porn-free zone! You have found some reprieve from a monster that many men have struggled with. As others who have posted on here, I have had my problems with porn. Not so much that it has been an addiction in my life, but rather it is something which causes me major triggers and there are sometimes moments when I unintentionally seek out porn which I know has been triggering but as a way to somehow "combat" it, "make sense of it," or even to somehow "save" the people in it. It is really weird. I myself was a victim of child pornography over six years and during that time also looked at regular porn sites perhaps as a way to normalize what was happening to me. As others have stated here, the release is a drug of sorts and for me, porn can be like a form of self-harming, such as cutting, which causes pain but a temporary release from emotional pain. These moments have greatly decreased for me but there are sometimes occasions when this affects me again. It is frustrating, but remember where those feelings came from- hurt from sexual abuse and trying to cope with it, sometimes your brain trying to make sense of it. It is also tremendously common for abuse survivors to still feel "attracted" to their abuse but only because of the impact it has had on their lives and on their brain-wiring. In some ways that attraction is a form of complex PTSD in which the body is re-experiencing these traumatic moments in the past. The brain often ties traumatic memories with physical sensations; when the traumatic memory was sexual in nature, what kind of physical sensations do you reckon would be coupled with those memories?

Once again, I wanted to commend you for your achievements and continued efforts. Your post really does come as a light at the end of the tunnel for many who are reading this.
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#479035 - 03/15/15 08:24 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
Bardo Offline


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Congratulations on your new life! You are doing a very hard and very brave thing putting the porn aside and living your life in the here and the now. I have found that since I started therapy last November, my need to access the porn has decreased significantly, although not gone away entirely. I don't know if I can live life as a "casual" porn user, but that is where I find myself today. I guess that will have to do until I get your courage. Keep it up!

Freeman
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#479656 - 03/24/15 02:09 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
wareagle Offline


Registered: 03/20/15
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Loc: Southeast USA
Michgem,

The porn use has probably affected all of us at some time ... it usually goes with masturbation but not always. Congratulations on stopping the cycle!!

For the rest of us the cycle continues. Breaking it is the hard part. You have to peel the porn (and maybe the masturbation too) layer off by itself and determine what triggers you to use porn (stress, boredom, procrastination) it may take a while to figure out what causes you to want to go sit in front of an inanimate object for hours a time. Then you can reboot ..... learn about rebooting from porn over at www.yourbrainonporn.com its a great resource for helping to overcome this piece to the abuse puzzle.

I hope this can help someone understand why they consume porn and more importantly how to stop.

Stay Strong!!

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#480775 - 04/15/15 04:14 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
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There is nothing wrong with porn. There is nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality. Its not either/or. Healthy expression of sexuality is about enjoying and expressing your heart and inner most desires between two consenting adults or viewing pleasurable things that bring no harm in the making.
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#481430 - 04/29/15 09:55 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: wareagle]
Jay1946 Offline


Registered: 08/08/13
Posts: 252
Loc: Miami, Florida, USA
Thanks to wareagle I learned of the website www.yourbrainonporn.com
and through this website I discovered www.rebootnation.org Both are excellent resources that have helped me greatly to overcome my addiction to internet porn.

The problem is not porn in and of itself. It's internet porn. It is instantly available and the constant release of dopamine that it triggers overwhelms our brain which is not built for such overstimulation. One of the consequences is that "real life" sexuality is no longer sufficiently stimulating. I was shocked reading in rebootnation.org the posts of so many teens and young adults who are already experiencing ED as a consequence of internet porn abuse. Many young guys have resorted to taking Viagra (and similar) on a night out to ensure they can perform. The good news is that it is reversible within a short period of time (usually 90 days).

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#481477 - 04/30/15 12:24 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
smc1972 Offline


Registered: 10/17/14
Posts: 188
Loc: SD
I hope to maybe reach a point where I am not addicted to porn but I don't think I can deal with that and CSA at the sametime. To me i turn to it when stressed or down which is quite often. Then I have the guilt that follows but I can't bring myself to stop. It has been something I have looked at for over 30 years and have kept hidden for the last 15-20 years. It is one of the things I hate about myself and use to look at myself as not a normal person.

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#481543 - 05/01/15 02:26 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
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Registered: 03/14/15
Posts: 43
Loc: Texas
Porn for me was/is an addiction.. wasting countless hours and entire nights. I have been married for 35 years and I also feel it is in a grey area of being unfaithful. I have been dry for two months now, and this site really does help. Horrible degrading things are out there...

When I feel myself being drawn to it, I find that if the wife is away or uninterested that if I MB and get it over with that I can stay away from it entirely, but it is so seductive. I have some good memories of fantastic sex with my wife that I can fantasize about that does the trick and I really think it is healthier- does not feed the perverted inner child. I will probably have to do that this weekend as Wifey is away.

All the best men in your struggles!

Ausitn
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#481546 - 05/01/15 07:40 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
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I think part of the reason why masturbation becomes a release for so many of us is that it allows us to find some sexual satisfaction without having to touch another and thus, according to dysfunctional thinking, harm another. It is a very safe way to find a moment of pleasure for those for whom sex can be equated with "badness" or evil.
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#481556 - 05/01/15 10:50 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Hoping4Peace]
Jay1946 Offline


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Posts: 252
Loc: Miami, Florida, USA
Originally Posted By: Austin54
I feel it is in a grey area of being unfaithful.
I will probably have to do that this weekend as Wifey is away.


My most challenging and difficult times are when my wife is away and I have the house to myself. If I don't check myself I could spend the entire day bingeing. So, on those occasions I make sure I don't stay home, and engage in other activities with people.

My marriage is very important to me. Thus, I have taken the position that viewing porn is a form of infidelity. That's how my wife views it. I get away with it because I find ways of doing it without my wife finding out.

But, I am battling this addiction, because I know that if I didn't care about my wife's feelings and continued viewing porn, it would cost me my marriage.
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#481559 - 05/01/15 11:58 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
Serious Dave Offline


Registered: 01/18/15
Posts: 122
Loc: OH
""real life" sexuality is no longer sufficiently stimulating."

I found this true for me in that it got to the point where I would rather MB with porn than have sex with my wife. That became a problem because sometimes she would want it right after I just got done with the porn. On those occasions, I was the one who had to fake the headache.

One possible reason is that porn is very visual, and sex with my wife was not (lights out). They say the most important sex organ is the brain. I believe that. During sex with soon-to-be-ex-wifey, I had to visualize what I could in my mind to add to the physical sensation. With porn, it's all right there; no imagination needed. Orgasms were always stronger with porn than without.

Another thought is that, sex with the wife becomes routine. Porn provides endless variety.

The foregoing are thoughts on why we are attracted to porn. I don't use any longer, nor do I condone it.
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A thought on the social/moral impact of porn:

Having been abused, I am not comfortable supporting an industry that systematically abuses people.

Dave






Edited by Serious Dave (05/02/15 09:05 AM)
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#481588 - 05/02/15 01:28 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Nothing Man]
smc1972 Offline


Registered: 10/17/14
Posts: 188
Loc: SD
Originally Posted By: Nothing Man
I think part of the reason why masturbation becomes a release for so many of us is that it allows us to find some sexual satisfaction without having to touch another and thus, according to dysfunctional thinking, harm another.


I agree with you in that for me I can be alone no worries of what the other person might think of me. Just myself pleasuring myself for the simple gratification. I do feel guilty and this k of myself as pathetic at times cause of this. I try to avoid it but I find myself at a point I can't then just spend hours with it. It is a roller coaster to me. I know that masturbation is a normal healthy thing it is the porn part and my own thoughts that bother me so much.

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#495697 - 02/22/16 12:30 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
Searching13 Offline


Registered: 02/07/16
Posts: 20
Loc: Ontario, Canada
porn is so easy to access, so I commend you on your achievement! I too struggle with this on a daily basis...my church tells me that porn is evil and not to engage in it. But even when I try to stay away, I always go there, especially if I am alone and my wife and kids are out. Even when I am watching and feeling aroused I know I shouldn't, but its like I cannot stop myself. I've used porn, masturbation, and sex with my wife as a stress less. I remember when I got the news that a close relative was nearly dying, and I needed to get to the hospital asap, BUT all I could do was have sex with my wife before I could face the stress of it all. I feel guilty, but its a stress release for me. anyone else experience the same

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#495705 - 02/22/16 03:41 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
30something Offline
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Registered: 12/30/15
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Loc: Southeast
Good work, Michgem. I can relate with the struggle to quit. It's an uphill battle and I'm glad to hear you made progress.

Searching13-- welcome! I'm starting to see how I disassociate during sex in general. It's all a stress reliever or an attempt to gain control over anxiety-inducing events that I in no way can control. I don't even know how to be intimate with my spouse while being mentally present. At least with porn/solo sex, I'm not inflicting not-present-me on her.

I'm hoping to avoid porn (and just MB without visual stimuli) and start a sex life with my spouse that is healthy. A long road ahead of me.... Know that you're not alone, Searching13. Best wishes.



Edited by 30something (02/23/16 07:08 PM)

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#495708 - 02/22/16 07:40 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
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Registered: 01/06/16
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It's great that you are breaking away from this addiction!

What has helped me is to stay away from what I call temptations. These are sexual scenes from movies or TV, or it can be something else like advertisement that show people in very revealing attire. These are the beginnings of slippery slope.

Once you figure out a way to not get tempted and stay away from these as much as possible it gets easier.

Good luck with continued healing.
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#497610 - 04/14/16 09:23 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
Jer Offline


Registered: 03/26/16
Posts: 40
Loc: Texas
Congratulations on your continued healing. I seem to go through phases of porn addiction, which is usually triggered when I feel super stressed or depressed about my life. Thanks for sharing your breakthrough!
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#516385 - 10/17/17 05:24 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
Eternal18 Offline


Registered: 10/09/17
Posts: 40
To each his own. But for me porn has been holding my hand all the way along a very sad frustrating road to recovery from CSA.

At times I have used it too much.

Into my mid 30s I was hardly sexual anymore at all. Thought it was normal. Stopped my antidepressants and I went insane with sexual impluses.

So I'm back on them it was too much to handle.

Why is this shit so difficult.
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#516389 - 10/17/17 05:50 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: JayBro]
Chris4TheMill Offline


Registered: 05/16/17
Posts: 692
Loc: NY / NJ Area
Originally Posted By JayBro
the release is a drug of sorts and for me, porn can be like a form of self-harming, such as cutting, which causes pain but a temporary release from emotional pain. These moments have greatly decreased for me but there are sometimes occasions when this affects me again.

I thought this was a great analogy, and never heard of porn being equated with cutting before. But I agree that it can be used as a form of self-harm, because we are not addressing our feelings of shame, depression, and unworthiness, but rather just numbing them with a temporary "high."

Sometimes that is all we can do for a long time, as we don't have the resources or ability to address the real feelings. However, hopefully over time, the goal should be to seek ways to resolve our feelings and beliefs about ourselves so that they are not as painful. The problem with just sticking with the "porn solution" is that ejaculating to porn only makes you feel worse afterward, and those bad feelings just drive you back to the porn. It is a loop cycle that usually goes deeper into despair, broken relationships, more depraved porn, and a continued emotional immaturity. That is the general nature of a reliance of the "reward system" of porn.

Been there....the essence of it is still stuck in my brain.




This one's an easy read:

Harvard Scientist Reveals Shocking Impact of Watching Porn

(However the comments on the bottom of the article can be triggering, so proceed with caution....)

These require a bit more time commitment:

How Porn Changes The Brain

Interview With Gary Wilson on You Tube

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#516404 - 10/17/17 09:52 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
LinEar Offline


Registered: 06/02/15
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Good point.

I would say, in this sense, that porn addiction is similar to love/relationship addiction, dependency, codependency... it all goes together. In love/relationship addiction, we're also self-harming (getting/staying with those who are no good for us, who enable us, whom we enable, preventing growth/emotional maturity, etc.) in an effort to numb the underlying issues with a temporary high.

Although it's never this simple in practice, this type of macro-level logic could be applied to any addiction.
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#516406 - 10/17/17 10:01 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: LinEar]
Chris4TheMill Offline


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Posts: 692
Loc: NY / NJ Area
Originally Posted By LinEar
Although it's never this simple in practice, this type of macro-level logic could be applied to any addiction.

Absolutely. I've had quite a number of different ones in my day.
They all basically serve the same purpose.

They also ALL suck, by the way smile

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#516479 - 10/19/17 04:01 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Chris4TheMill]
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I can also relate to the cutting and self harm concept. Years ago I told a T that to some degree I felt like I had become my own abuser as I felt compelled to use porn and masturbation to re experience the sexualized trauma from my original sexual abuse.

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#516714 - 10/24/17 09:50 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
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Registered: 10/21/17
Posts: 2
Loc: North Texas
My sex/porn addiction is strange I masterbate like a pro I totally loose my self in the porn film in that moment I'm in it I travel back to younger days I never cut myself but I've been cut durning a event Lately it's become more porn with attention to keep me from going out to do things I'm trying to slow down its been 4 weeks since I've had a man I'm having trouble I've not gone this long without for a very long time

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#516723 - 10/24/17 04:41 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
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Loc: Vancouver, BC
Is porn-free zone really possible? I do struggle with this frequently as I believe it's depriving me of a meaningful and healthy sexual relationship with my wife. My T asked me on my first visit if I have any sexual desire, and if so, how do I usually deal with it. I was surprised that I told him that I masturbate to porn on a regular basis. He told me that we'll visit this topic whenever I am ready to talk about it. But basically, he told me that porn is a cheap substitute for a meaningful sexual relationship with my wife. Mentally, I totally agree with him. But I am not ready to tackle that just yet. I do look forward to discussing this with my T on a later date. Thank you all for posting.
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#520936 - 02/10/18 11:14 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
smc1972 Offline


Registered: 10/17/14
Posts: 188
Loc: SD
Had a bad week and I found myself as usual turning to porn. I can’t seem to not go there and use it for hours and masturbate. When I am doing it I sho e how feel good and it is like a great feeling then later I feel that shame.

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#521040 - 02/14/18 07:58 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
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Posts: 104
Loc: Canada
I can relate. It's kind of weird, I have some that I've saved but I rarely look at it. Then I get triggered by something sex related and I'm into it again. I sometimes feel that I wish everything was G rated, I wouldn't miss seeing sexuality in movies or TV. For me, as I am a survivor of female abuse, I've related this to media, articles, etc that to me reinforce the idea that women don't need to be held accountable sexually. I also don't feel good about it. I find having a collection reduces the chances I'll waste a lot of time searching. But I would be humiliated if others in my life knew I had it.

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#521182 - 02/20/18 10:48 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
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Posts: 59
I am realizing I am using porn as this way of finding a release like to just let ,self escape. I have done this for longer than I want to admit. I am now realizing this is an issues for me. I have said this to myself before but I always fail and go back to it.

I was exposed to it at a young age and now with the internet it is just so easy to go there.i tell myself that at least it is safe as if to try to tell myself it is ok to do this. At times I wish I had no sexual urges because I go through this up and down emotional trip.

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#521194 - 02/21/18 01:14 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: smichael]
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Posts: 320
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Well, it's an issue if it's an issue to you. You have a sexual behavior that you can't seem to stop. Obviously, there is a connection to hormones, stress and anxiety levels. If it interferes with your life, relationships and well being then it's self destructive. This is something you'll have to determine. Depending on your religious convictions, masturbation and porn aren't bad.

I would put porn in a whole different category. There are ethical considerations. Again, it's just my feelings. Not everyone has to agree.

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#521230 - 02/22/18 10:12 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
smichael Offline


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Posts: 59
I guess my issue is that the porn is part of the memories from my childhood. I think that is what causing me the most guilt. I regret using the memories and porn at times. There are times it does not bother me but now I seems to be a greater issue. I know masturbation is normal and should be healthy. I just feel I use it in the wrong manner.

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#521241 - 02/23/18 09:16 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
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Posts: 320
Loc: Chesapeake, VA
Do you think the guilt has something to do with your past and upbringing. Was masturbation discourage or were you made to feel ashamed of it?

I was caught many times as a teen. My stepdad, I believe, would suspect I was doing it and barge into my room and ridicule me for it. Serious, he was doing the SAMETHING.

I've accidently walked in on my children (door was open) and apologized and promptly left. I don't want them ashamed of exploring their bodies and sexuality...

It's normal human behavior...


Edited by SDD757 (02/23/18 09:23 AM)

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#521242 - 02/23/18 10:00 AM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: SDD757]
manipulated Offline
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Originally Posted By SDD757
It's normal human behavior...



EXACTLY

But the guilt and shame is used by religion and governmental laws to control and manipulate the people. Much like perpetrators groom and manipulate. Coincidence?
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#521245 - 02/23/18 12:19 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: manipulated]
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Yes the purity culture has caused a lot of damage...

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#521325 - 02/26/18 10:13 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
smichael Offline


Registered: 12/13/17
Posts: 59
For e it is not a religious or upbringing it was actually just the opposite. I was raised knowing what masturbation was and told it was normal. Which I agree but I guess for me it was cause at a young age I was allowed to look at porn magazines and I masturbated to them. At the age 11 my older neighbors involved me in sexual activity. Now I feel shame in doing this especially to my childhood memories. I know I am not doing anything wrong persee in the act but it the memories and the use of porn that now I feel like I am sick. Like all together what I am doing is wrong.

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#521326 - 02/26/18 10:22 PM Re: Used Porn as a release [Re: Michgem]
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Posts: 320
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Some one on MS said that we should stop looking at our sexuality through the lens of right and wrong (my paraphrase).

Being exposed to sexual content at a young age is abuse. It's obviously abuse with the neighbors.

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