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#483424 - 06/06/15 03:13 AM Re: The Sleep Disturbances,Troubles of Male Survivors. [Re: R321]
don64 Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 10/09/13
Posts: 1106
My sleep is somewhat predictable. I rarely sleep much in the prime night time sleeping hours. I rarely sleep more than three hours at a time. I live alone and don't work, so I sleep whenever I feel tired. So, I usually get a total of 6-8 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period. That's usually one or two three hour periods, and one or two 1-2 hour periods. Rarely do I sleep 6 hours in one session. I take quite a bit of across the counter benadryl/acetaminaphen combination for anxiety and panic. Also, my whole body has generally hurt for several years. I know this is all directly related to abuse issues, so the only thing I do is keep on keepin' on with working on healing my abuse issues. Working was no longer possible by age 53, and declined steadily from age 45 on. Again, all attributable to abuse issues.

Love and good luck to us all.

Don
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#483428 - 06/06/15 07:56 AM Re: The Sleep Disturbances,Troubles of Male Survivors. [Re: R321]
Banjo596 Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 08/20/13
Posts: 100
Loc: Ohio
I too find it difficult to get a full nights sleep. It's Saturday, no work today, but I am up at 3:30am. Usually for me lately I wake up and start thinking about all the issues in my life I am working on. It's a positive I am working on these things, but sometimes I feel the work consumes me. Always on my mind. Can find only occasional times when I forget about them and just be.

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#486203 - 07/30/15 01:35 PM Re: The Sleep Disturbances,Troubles of Male Survivors. [Re: R321]
Strive 38/11 Offline


Registered: 07/24/15
Posts: 141
Loc: Australia
I had full sleep study 70 tubes and wires in lab over night. The conclusion it takes me a long time to go to sleep, but I'm a good sleeper when I am asleep. Drugs like Stilnox create mental fogs. Right one I've cut my Stilnox dose in half and lowered the Seroquel. To compensate I've increased the strength of the holosync that helps put me to sleep. In preparation for this detox I removed sugar completely from my diet and also I removed caffeine. I don't drink alcohol. I walk four kms with the dog in the morning. Now my biggest challenge is blue light and shutting my mind off which is the wholly Grail. If you deep breathe and breathe out long that helps heaps of things. Headspace has very useful guided meditations in this area.
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#486204 - 07/30/15 01:37 PM Re: The Sleep Disturbances,Troubles of Male Survivors. [Re: R321]
Strive 38/11 Offline


Registered: 07/24/15
Posts: 141
Loc: Australia
Must mediate

Don't be a slave to the random thoughts of your mind. Take control.
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Just because someone stumbles and loses their way,
does not mean they're lost forever.

Strive 38/11

Get out of my way I'm coming through on my own.
I'm coming through all alone - Tunnel - Screaming Jets

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#499327 - 06/16/16 02:08 PM Re: The Sleep Disturbances,Troubles of Male Survivors. [Re: R321]
Bryan7601 Offline


Registered: 05/19/16
Posts: 21
Loc: GA
Can't remember the last time I really slept good. Got one of the doctors I work with to give me a prescription for trazadone and it helps though I keep waking up. I seem to rest better on a sofa than the bed lately.
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#499605 - 06/28/16 03:17 AM Re: The Sleep Disturbances,Troubles of Male Survivors. [Re: R321]
bluesky Offline
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Registered: 08/05/13
Posts: 677
Loc: NJ
Hi guys.
I have a really hard time falling asleep. As long as I can remember at least since I was 6-7 years old about when I first was abused I have sleep issues. Can't fall asleep, scared to sleep, nightmares and restless sleep. It has gotten worse since I stared therapy 3 years ago and since I hit my head 2 years ago. I fall asleep around 2:00/3:00 most nights and if I fall asleep earlyer then I wake up several times. If my wife holds me the hole night that can help with the nightmares. I do take some supplements that help a bit because if I don't take them it worse. I won't take meds for this I need a very clear and sharp head and reflexes for my job as an Acupuncterist. I can be on something that dulls my senses in any way or I just won't work and that won't work for me. I hope to address this issue some how. Wishing you all the best and keep strong.
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#499625 - 06/28/16 06:21 PM Re: The Sleep Disturbances,Troubles of Male Survivors. [Re: R321]
zookeeper Offline


Registered: 05/15/16
Posts: 610
Loc: Ohio
My evenings go like this:
Stop caffeine at 2 on.....check
Take meds including melatonin.......check
CPAP machine.....check
Comfy pillows, dark room......check
Say my prayers......check
THEN I lay there for two hours, tossing, turning, and when I
do go to sleep I rarely have a night without nightmares or night terrors.
Predictable and lousy
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#522193 - 03/25/18 01:38 PM Re: The Sleep Disturbances,Troubles of Male Survivors. [Re: R321]
JamesM Offline


Registered: 01/30/18
Posts: 76
Loc: UK
I used to wake up between the ages of 11 and 15 with my father in the room with me at night.

At first I remember inviting him into my bed because my sister was nearby and I did not want him to abuse her. By morning I would have forgotten what had happened but would feel hostile towards my father.

When I was aged 14 - 15 I remember the door would open and I would ask him what he wanted and he would go away. I would feel he would come back and eventually I fell asleep. Other times I would wake up and he would be kneeling by the bed manipulating my penis. I do not remember him getting up and leaving, but cannot remember at all what happened next. In the morning I would feel confused about what had happened.

I would go to school and experience discharges from my anus and found it difficult to keep myself clean at school and from smelling bad, especially in the afternoon. I was afraid of using the toilets and used to go there in the middle of lessons. This all seemed to go on for ages.

Eventually I started staying awake at night and I caught him coming into my room more often. I rearranged the furniture and dragged the bed over the door at night to keep him away from me. The anal problems stopped and I had to threaten him to stop him completely. He then went to work abroad.

I sleep badly when I have been thinking about sexual abuse and when I am in therapy. I have many waking dreams that are more like flashbacks. These vary in frequency and type, but often take the form of my being unable to breathe and I wake up as I leap out of bed. I can't sleep for a while and this can happen a couple or more times in one night.

I used to wonder if I slept through being raped, but I doubt that would be possible and it was probably a need to forget or dissociation during fear. I had daily flashbacks soon after he left to work abroad when I was 15 of someone raping me. I remembered recently the rape stories I used to read that my father brought home. I used to feel like I was the victim.

I was writing this initially, since I wondered if it is possible to sleep through sexual abuse, but it seems to me it is not if there is penetration. My father used to over-medicate my mother to keep her asleep whilst he abused me, but I do not remember him drugging me. I find it hard sometimes to accept what my father used to do to me.

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#522234 - 03/26/18 03:36 AM Re: The Sleep Disturbances,Troubles of Male Survivors. [Re: R321]
chairdesklamp Offline


Registered: 01/20/18
Posts: 151
Loc: Los Angeles County, California
I stopped sleeping naturally in '98. Turned to street drugs. In '04, got clean, got prescriptions. On a cocktail now that I add three Benadryl to. Abuse went from'94 to last year. Most recent abuser still lives in building. Has come after me. I have a lock-checking ritual I sometimes have to do three times. I started sleepwalking. I live alone because it seems to be either that or be abused. Woke halfway up two nights ago and thought street lights glinting off stove (teeny-tiny apartment) was someone coming to hurt me. (No-one and nothing specific) Now, I need the TV on to sleep after the lock-checking ritual is complete. I turn away from it, and it's on mute, but I need it on. A lamp will keep me awake, even that drugged. Caffeine is irrelevant. This began long before I had a home computer and smaller ones existed. Sometimes I still have"break-through nights," where I cannot sleep at all despite the meds. I'm drugged and slurring, but can't sleep until at least the next afternoon. This has made me miss work, but it's not safe. I showed up like that once, and I freaked out my boss, so he's been good about it since.
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#522238 - 03/26/18 06:57 AM Re: The Sleep Disturbances,Troubles of Male Survivors. [Re: R321]
CelloL Offline


Registered: 07/20/17
Posts: 183
Loc: Missouri
I have a hard time falling asleep and I have a lot of dread over sleep. I used to have night terrors but rarely any more. Last year they came back when air quality in my neighborhood was bad because of a storm sewer project that had the roads torn up and dust suspended in the air. Nights when I have to get up early are very rough for me. My wife likes to stay up late. I can't sleep if she doesn't go to bed at the same time. Otherwise, I lay in bed tense, anxious that she will startle me when she comes to bed.

Over the years I have discovered I need to watch what I ingest. Food dyes are a nasty culprit: red #40, yellow 5 & 6, blue 1 & 2 are all problems for me. Sometimes they are in foods and medicines you don't expect. Certain scents cause trouble like in laundry detergents, lotions, and fragrances. Chamomile makes me congested and when I can't breathe I can't sleep. I keep caffeine and other stimulants out of my diet because of heart issues. The exception is chocolate with its theobromine (a stimulant). A doctor told me I should avoid it, but I love it too much to cut it completely (it makes me happy). I have a few pieces of chocolate with almonds in the morning when I wake up as my substitute for coffee. I avoid it at night.

Benadryl gives me weird experiences, like falling off a cliff and then suddenly waking up. Again and again. In the morning I feel drugged and sluggish. I do take melatonin some nights, sometimes calcium in the form of cheese or Tums (not too much, I've been told by a doctor it can shut down your kidneys).

Chairdesklamp, any chance you can move to a different apartment building in the future? Your home should be a place where you feel safe and if there is someone in the building who is a threat, then you are not safe.

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