We can never forget that child within. He suffered so much and now it is his time to live amongst us and not separated by the abuse. Thank you for sharing, it reminded me of how I pushed the child to a dark place over the decades, I disowned him but now that he is part of me life is good.
wow - that choked me up, too. the night before, i was at a big event and sat next to an 11-yr-old boy during dinner - the same age that i was when some of the worst stuff happened to me. that was another jolt - triggering in a way - like this - but in a GOOD way - if you know what i mean - helping me to embrace my younger self in a way i was unable to at one time.
"The wound is the place where the light enters you." - Rumi
Thanks for the post. For me, one of the hardest things is finding a way to forgive myself. This gives me hope that it can be done.
Traveler - I know well what you speak of. I work with kids for a living, and every once in awhile I'm reminded that some of these kids are the age I was when the CSA occurred. I would never ever let anyone hurt one of my kids. I wish, though, someone would have been there for me. Oh well, no sense of longing for what never will be.
I was gushing tears when i heard this song as well!
And true, so true what you say Davo about finding a way to forgive oneself, i never knew i even had to do this until now.,All the shame and things in me which are bad are not my fault. It's as if i have to perpetually compensate for some innate defect in me, when in truth this defect is nonexistent , it's just compounded shame and guilt. Lately i just remind myself than in the grand scheme of life i am just a drop in the ocean and whatever happened to me doesn't define me. I can choose. Hard work and patience get's you where you need to go. And i stay positive. Again keeping you all my prayers tonight i sign off wishing you the best my friends.
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