Things have been going well so I post less...but then, honestly, I feel bad that I post less because then all everyone ever reads are the crazy times people have.
Anyway......everything I am about to say is my $.02 so take it for that much.
is kid of more opinionated and less humble today.....
I notice a lot of people are worried about "ruining the family" when they want to disclose. Let me give you a little tip..... if the family member is the perp ....THEY already did that! It's already done! All you may be doing is surrendering to the CSA shame by keeping quiet.
Don't be afraid people may use your CSA against you. It just happened to us and, to be honest, very little happened. Fear is not your friend.
1 in 6 means we ALL have a lot of company. No one is truly alone with this. We are just at different stages in it.
If you are a drug addict, alcoholic, depressed, anxious, angry man, who was sexually abused as a child you are NOT a bad person. You are suffering the effects of that abuse. Go get help. Life can and will be better for you.
It is a very jagged little pill to swallow when you find out your husband has been keeping his CSA from you. It is a painful process to come to terms with that. Both partners need to understand that.
I saw a video on Facebook where a guy skirted using the full name but outed his abuser after like 35 years or so. BRAVO!! GO!! GO!!
I have no idea how some of you interact with your H's perp without physically attacking them. My hat is off to you girls for your restraint.
Ignorance is all around us. It is not our job to educate the world. It is our job to live our lives and CSA is a part of our lives. If people don't understand, or they have ignorant opinions, or they run, or they squirm in their chairs, we can't help that. That is on them. We can only go about our lives and be who we are and communicate with who we can connect with.
Still with me?
One more thing......do something kind for yourself today.