I've had a major problem with loss of me
. I think that abuse I experienced when I was 12 and 13 was aimed at making me lose my sense of self, or what little of it I had then. They wanted to mold me into a different person, one of their own choosing, and very different from my real self. I think what I had is depersonalization disorder.
Some things that have helped me are:
1. Talking out problems regularly with a therapist. A good therapist will be able to hear me and reflect answers which will guide me into who I am.
2. Collecting pictures of myself as a kid, and reading old letters from that time.
3. Watching movies which resonate on who I'm to be. Not all movies are good. One must be selective. But when I found some movies that seem to click for me and I find myself saying, Yes, there I am, Yes, that was how I would have acted, and Yes, that's right, then I'm growing in my self understanding.
One of my favorites is a movie based on a novel by Grisham, it's called A Painted House
. In that, the boy faced situations which I also faced. I found that watching it helped to unravel for me who I am (and was).
Another one that helped me was:Education of Little Treehttp://www.imdb.com/title/tt0119052/
I have a list of perhaps a dozen movies which similarly helped me. I have previously posted this list and I can find it if anybody asks me to.