Newest Members
jake1985, cactus8, Neil Benesh, blazzeee, mmm coffee
13531 Registered Users
Today's Birthdays
isol8er (46), omrfople (41), zookeeper (54)
Who's Online
2 registered (Scott1962, 1 invisible), 76 Guests and 5 Spiders online.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Forum Stats
13,530 Registered Members
75 Forums
70,386 Topics
491,542 Posts

Most users ever online: 418 @ 07/02/12 11:29 AM
Twitter
Page 2 of 2 < 1 2
Topic Options
#466789 - 06/19/14 04:50 PM Re: I Just Blew Up... [Re: tbkkfile]
sentry Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 08/12/12
Posts: 58
Loc: Canada
Hey Husky. I don't want to come across like I have the right answer in your situation with your parents. I was triggered immensely and was instantly back in my bedroom with my foster mother screaming at me in the doorway. I had failed to get up to start her car for her and I woke up to her screaming at me. When I stood up she fired her keys at me hitting me in the head. I picked them up and was going to throw them back at her. The anger inside me was frightening. I really felt at the time I could have killed her. It was not over the incident at the time but built up after years of violence and abuse she perpetrated on me and my sister. I walked up to her and grabbed her wrists and backed her out and across the hall and into the closet and shut the door. I am so grateful I did not go any further, but the anger that had built up in me after years of her hate and cruelty was right there at the surface. I can feel it now talking about it.
May I suggest to you Husky as a fellow survivor that you get yourself some support now. This is too big for you my friend. You need outside professional support to intervene in the situation on your behalf.
Please forgive me If I have gone to far but I have been there and it registered so clearly with me. I stayed away from my foster mother as much as I could after that incident. It was the first time I defended myself and stood up for myself and quite frankly it scared the shit out of me.
Take Care of yourself Husky. It is time for you to put your safety first.
Sentry.

Top
#466793 - 06/19/14 06:40 PM Re: I Just Blew Up... [Re: concerned_husky]
concerned_husky Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 08/30/12
Posts: 766
.


Edited by concerned_husky (08/31/15 03:47 PM)
Edit Reason: Walls up again.
_________________________
Husky

"Only the solitary seek the truth, and they break with all those who don't love it sufficiently." - Pasternak

Top
#466794 - 06/19/14 07:04 PM Re: I Just Blew Up... [Re: concerned_husky]
traveler Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 4230
Loc: resettling in NE Ohio
Husky -

i don't want to come across as nagging - because i know that you have heard this before - but - this just really underscores the importance of you getting the hell out of there as soon as you possibly can. whatever you can do to make that happen, it should be your number one priority, IMHO!

be careful and take care of yourself,
LEE
_________________________
How long, LORD, must I call for help, but you do not listen?
Or cry out to you, “Violence!” but you do not save?
Why do you make me look at injustice?
Why do you tolerate wrongdoing?...
Therefore the law is paralyzed, and justice never prevails....
Habakkuk 1:2-3

Top
#466816 - 06/20/14 04:34 AM Re: I Just Blew Up... [Re: concerned_husky]
Bluedogone Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 07/03/13
Posts: 1123
Loc: Southern US
((((((Husky))))))

It's been a few hours since the "blow up" and I hope things have settled down a bit and you feel more in control of how you're coping. I know in my own situation getting away from parents was like a whole new life of freedom. Obviously, I don't know your personal situation, but sometimes family relationships are just too toxic to try to deal with. Parents can cause such pain and heart ache. I wish I had some great advice to offer, but I don't, I can only say my thoughts are with you in this difficult, difficult situation.

CJ
_________________________
Whether you say, "i can't do this," or say, "I CAN DO THIS" You're Right.

Top
#466821 - 06/20/14 11:31 AM Re: I Just Blew Up... [Re: concerned_husky]
Sven Offline


Registered: 07/29/13
Posts: 486
How are you doing Husky?
_________________________
The first step to living the life you want, is to leave behind what you don't want.

Top
#466822 - 06/20/14 12:19 PM Re: I Just Blew Up... [Re: concerned_husky]
concerned_husky Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 08/30/12
Posts: 766
.


Edited by concerned_husky (08/31/15 03:48 PM)
Edit Reason: Walls up again.
_________________________
Husky

"Only the solitary seek the truth, and they break with all those who don't love it sufficiently." - Pasternak

Top
#466823 - 06/20/14 12:44 PM Re: I Just Blew Up... [Re: concerned_husky]
tbkkfile Offline


Registered: 09/16/13
Posts: 391
Loc: Surrey, United Kingdom
Hi Husky, I'm so glad that you've taken a positive step forward, it's the first stage in reaching a better place and we're with you all the way, you don't have to do this on your own.

Top
#466824 - 06/20/14 01:01 PM Re: I Just Blew Up... [Re: concerned_husky]
traveler Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 4230
Loc: resettling in NE Ohio
Husky - two weeks - that is good to hear. you can do that. you will do so much better once you are in a less sick and toxic atmosphere. hold on and be cool - a better time and place is within reach.
lee
_________________________
How long, LORD, must I call for help, but you do not listen?
Or cry out to you, “Violence!” but you do not save?
Why do you make me look at injustice?
Why do you tolerate wrongdoing?...
Therefore the law is paralyzed, and justice never prevails....
Habakkuk 1:2-3

Top
#466840 - 06/20/14 10:40 PM Re: I Just Blew Up... [Re: concerned_husky]
WriterKeith Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 12/30/10
Posts: 980
You've got a worldwide group standing with you here through the hard times, Husky.

Keep reminding yourself that this is not a permanent situation.

Top
#466903 - 06/23/14 01:54 AM Re: I Just Blew Up... [Re: concerned_husky]
focusedbody Offline


Registered: 02/03/13
Posts: 541
Loc: NY
Husky:

Do you think you could share your plan for leaving? I think it would be good to go over it with supporters and survivors here.

FB
_________________________
Lose the drama; life is a poem.

Top
Page 2 of 2 < 1 2

Moderator:  ModTeam, TJ jeff 

I agree that my access and use of the MaleSurvivor discussion forums and chat room is subject to the terms of this Agreement. AND the sole discretion of MaleSurvivor.
I agree that my use of MaleSurvivor resources are AT-WILL, and that my posting privileges may be terminated at any time, and for any reason by MaleSurvivor.