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#466245 - 06/05/14 06:02 PM Response to the Editor of Journalistic Smut...
BigV Offline

Registered: 07/20/09
Posts: 86
Loc: Western Canada
Yet another piece of journalistic trash has been published, describing the abuse of boys by a women as a "relationship", "tryst", "sexual encounter", etc.

I innitial found the link for it on Male Survivor's Facebook page. Here is a link to the article:

So rather than sit here, and fester in my anger, I decided to take action, and wrote a letter to the editor of this fine publication. Here it is:

"Dear Editor,

I am writing to you in regards to the article that your website published on June 3, 2014, titled "Queens gym teacher raped 16-year-old wrestler in school, and bedded second student: sources". I would like to point out some important discrepancies that may have been missed before it's publishing, primarily in regards to it's wording.

It would seem that the author mistakenly confused the sexual abuse of the children mentioned in the article, as some sort of "relationship". Words such as "lover", "trysts", "relationship" and "bedded" were mistakenly used in the article.

Here is a list of the words that were used in error, and the correct words that should have been used in their place:

Tryst: grooming

Affair: grooming

Relationship: grooming

intimate relationship: grooming

Involved with: sexual predation

Bedded: raped

Lover: rape victim

student lover: rape victim

raunchy selfies: exposed herself to a minor

sexual encounter: raping

encounters: rapes

Hookups: rapes

Rendezvous: rapes

It would seem that, somehow, the authors of this article have confused Joy Morsi's sexual predation of children as a normal adult relationship. It was not a relationship, nor a tryst, nor were they hooking up... she is a rapist, a sexual abuser of children, and those boys were her victims. Those boys were children, and she raped them.

I was sexual abused by an adult women when I was four years old. I am a survivor of rape at the hands of a women. I am thirty five, and I have only just begun my recovery. Time and time again, I have to come across journalistic garbage like this, that reads more like cheap smut than real reporting. Here is a simple rule that I suggest you and your writers follow: if you do not publicly out child molesters, rapists, and sexual predictors, then are one of them. To depict the depravity of these sick people is to protect and therefore assist them in the predation of our children. As a survivor of the sexual depravities of a female sexual predator, I can not let this sort of trashy, journalistic smut be published without an appropriate and corresponding response.

I have a feeling that your writers confusion about the distinction between a relationship between two consenting adults, and when a grown women rapes a boy, stems from the gender biases that they are obviously suffering from. Gender biases are like brain damage, they cause people to see things that aren't there, or their perception of reality becomes distorted as a result of the infliction to their mental faculties. Unlike brain damage, gender bias, and sexism can be cured through education. Perhaps, in your case, this education could take on the form of pay deduction, suspension without pay, loss of a promotion, or perhaps just a good smack up the backside of the head (to bad that's technically illegal). Perhaps you should just fire the authors, that would send a clear message to the rest of your organization, wouldn't it? Remember, if you do not act to correct this injustice, then you are, via proxy, a willing a accomplice to the raping of these boys. You are assisting in the ongoing normalization of women raping boys.

And just so you know, I will be posting my letter to you online, on forums for male survivors of sexual assault, including Reddit, as well as on the Male Survivor facebook page where I initial found this piece of drivel.

Thank you for your time, and good luck figuring out how write and publish pieces that are actually worthy of the title "journalism". I wait with baited anticipation for what should be an exceptionally well written response.



So there you have it. I've done my part for today. I am a survivor, and I will not be silenced.

Feel free to send the editor a note, if you feel so moved, to let them know about what you think about this article. They can be reached at:


#466252 - 06/05/14 10:52 PM Re: Response to the Editor of Journalistic Smut... [Re: BigV]
Adam A Gedman Offline

Registered: 08/12/13
Posts: 188
Loc: Canada

Thanks for your submission.
I am not a survivor female abuse but your feelings are not lost on me.
I keep hearing the same sort of portrayal, and I cringe every time.

I may just write them as well.

Thanks for the motivation.

Now, as they said in the MiniWoR I attended last weekend ...Breath!
Presence is the key, for all we have is now.
All we ever have is right now.

Formerly Adam A Gedman (AKA - A damAGed man)

But you can call me Kevin

Toronto Mini WoR - May 2014

#466278 - 06/06/14 04:48 AM Re: Response to the Editor of Journalistic Smut... [Re: BigV]
BigV Offline

Registered: 07/20/09
Posts: 86
Loc: Western Canada
Thank you, Adam!


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