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#464848 - 05/01/14 04:06 AM Re: My mother-in-law and 15 year-old sharing a bed [Re: learning2remember]
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Registered: 12/30/10
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L2R,
Good plan. Does your son need to know everything about the basis of your decision? Could you simply insist he be home in his home bed just for the sake of him being home in his own bed?
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#464851 - 05/01/14 06:13 AM Re: My mother-in-law and 15 year-old sharing a bed [Re: learning2remember]
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Registered: 10/21/03
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I don't intend to explain everything, or anything, really, but I might just in a few days say something like, "It's nice to have you back. I'm sorry if it was uncomfortable for you to sleep there. I didn't know you'd be in the same bed."

Is that too much? I'd like to open a door for him to speak, if there is anything to say, and if he wants to.
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#464862 - 05/01/14 10:37 AM Re: My mother-in-law and 15 year-old sharing a bed [Re: learning2remember]
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Registered: 08/08/13
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Loc: Miami, Florida, USA
Learn:

As a survivor of "emotional abuse" in my teen years, I would caution you of projecting your feelings on him. I would leave it at
"It's nice to have you back", and if he were my son I'd give him a hug. (I hug my children often, including my son, whose now 32 years old).

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#464863 - 05/01/14 10:40 AM Re: My mother-in-law and 15 year-old sharing a bed [Re: learning2remember]
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Jay1946,
Thanks. I get it. I'll follow your advice.
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