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#464246 - 04/18/14 04:55 PM coping
traveler Offline
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Registered: 02/07/06
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Loc: settling in the USA again
i am the champion of coping mechanisms:

i am the epitome of denial
"Nothing happened. I am fine!"

i am a paradigm of dissociation
"I wasn't even there. That wasn't me."

i am adept at amnesia
"Abuse? What abuse?"

i am a master of minimizing
"It wasn't really that bad."

i am a virtuoso at justification
"Well, they couldn't really help it because..."

i am an expert at excuses
"I can't deal with it now because I'm too busy."

i am the ace of avoidance
"That reminds me, have you heard about...?"

i am foremost at fantasy
"Let's do another roleplaying game."

i am head honcho of hiding
"If i say and do nothing, then no one will notice."

i am a star at distraction
"I have to see, hear, try the latest everything!"

i am a wizard of repression
"It was a long time ago. Let sleeping dogs lie."

i am nonpareil at numbing
"Give me another one. There's no such thing as too much."

i am king of isolation
"I am a rock. I am an island. And a rock feels no pain."

i am the paragon of overcompensation
"Look: all A's! I got a raise! Another promotion!"

i am a pro at perfectionism
"I just have to get this right before i can rest."

i am a failure at all of the above.
"Eventually, they all stop working."

lee
04/18/14
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"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"

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#464248 - 04/18/14 07:04 PM Re: coping [Re: traveler]
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hey my friend
you got it all just right except for one thing ... you are not alone.
Good writing man keep it up
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Either I will find a way, or I will make one.
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#464249 - 04/18/14 08:23 PM Re: coping [Re: newground]
I Want 2 Thrive Offline
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Registered: 04/04/14
Posts: 91
Loc: Florida, U.S.A
Originally Posted By: newground
hey my friend
you got it all just right except for one thing ... you are not alone.
Good writing man keep it up


What ^he^ said. I may be new but, we are all here...
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Izzy

"There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind" C.S. Lewis

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#464274 - 04/19/14 01:53 PM Re: coping [Re: traveler]
traveler Offline
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3954
Loc: settling in the USA again
thanks, guys.

i wrote this recently while working through a 12-step program and taking a moral inventory, in an attempt to take responsibility for my own actions and reactions.

i guess i should add that most of the tactics i have abandoned as ineffective for an adult, though they helped me survive as a child and until i was ready to grow up emotionally.

but i still revert to minimizing, rationalizing and isolating, if i am not careful.

thanks for the reminder that i am not alone. that is one of the best things about being here at MS.

lee
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"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"

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