i think it is a process - and a continuously renewable DECISION.
i also see it as an ongoing disentanglement from the bondage to the abuser - or cutting myself free from the past and the acts and connection to the perps and becoming independently and personally responsible for myself and creating my own feelings and actions - not being programmed to RE-act and RE-spond and RE-enact the old scenarios and RE-play the old "tapes."
just my point of view...
How long, LORD, must I call for help, but you do not listen?
Or cry out to you, ÔÇťViolence!ÔÇŁ but you do not save?
Why do you make me look at injustice?
Why do you tolerate wrongdoing?...
Therefore the law is paralyzed, and justice never prevails....