welcome to ms.org.
it is terrible to find out what happened to someone you love.
you are a victim of this tragedy and trauma as well, unfortunately.
he will benefit from your support, if you are strong and protect yourself.
i have been married for 23 years.
i disclosed to my wife before we got serious.
she has seen some of the worst of me,
but never lets me drag her down.
somehow we have managed to make it work,
and we have had a great deal of success raising 3 great kids,
all teenagers now.
it ain't easy, but life never is.
you will find your husband all over the pages of this forum.
hopefully it will give you some insight and
it may help you understand who you are involved with,
and what he is going through.
do not tolerate cheating or beating.
maintain your safety and dignity.