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#462914 - 03/20/14 07:54 PM Re: Depression or... ? [Re: Sven]
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Registered: 07/29/13
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#462915 - 03/20/14 08:35 PM Re: Depression or... ? [Re: Sven]
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Registered: 10/09/13
Posts: 1104
Loc: St. Croix, USVI
Hi Sven,

You have had a very, very rough time of it for a long time, Sven. It doesn't mean that you don't have the capacity for a long and happy life, but it does mean you will have to be able to bring your focus into the present and be able to put one step in front of the other and deal with the immediate present. It is the only way I have found to get through great challenges. So, it seems to me that right now your only focus can be on getting enough rest so your body and mind have the ABILITY to sustain you.

I don't know how you have to do it, but somehow you have to be able to get the help you need to have a reality base of what is possible for you RIGHT NOW. Not tomorrow, next year, or next month. Just simply not being able to get the rest you need can cause severe problems as you are already seeing. So, I don't know what medical and therapeutic resources are available to you, but it sounds to me like you are describing a person in crisis. So, if you are in crisis you are going to HAVE to call in the resources to get the help you need. It doesn't sound like you are ABLE to do all this by yourself, and that sounds realistic to me. From following you for a good while now, it sounds like it is unrealistic to expect you to do this by yourself.

You are worth the effort, Sven. I hope you will ask for the help you need. This forum can offer a great deal of emotional support and encouragement, but it sounds like you are also needing the help of some real live humans on the ground where you physically are. I'm sending all the love and support I can over the air waves. I hope you are able to make the effort to find people where you physically live who can help you with any medications and crisis intervention type counseling you need to get you through this difficult time.

I am concerned with your descriptions of yourself, and hoping you find the emotional resources to reach out to ask for the help you need. Your job is just to ask for the help, not figure out what to do. It's someone else's job right now to help you. It's your job to ask.

I'm holding you in my thoughts,

Don
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#463134 - 03/25/14 01:40 PM Re: Depression or... ? [Re: Sven]
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a lot to deal with at your age. any age for that matter. working with professionals is a good start and yes it probably is depression. I hope you understand that all you are going thru now will be for the best in the long run. i wish when i was in high school i had the opportunity to bring the legal stuff to my abuser, but i didn't. It would have been hard but in the end you will be heard and empowered.

stay strong and good luck.
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#464638 - 04/27/14 10:11 AM Re: Depression or... ? [Re: Sven]
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i feel like giving up
i want to
i dont know why



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#464641 - 04/27/14 11:32 AM Re: Depression or... ? [Re: Sven]
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Hi Sven,

I'm sending you an extra dose of support today. I'm sorry you are feeling so down.

Don
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#464676 - 04/28/14 02:41 AM Re: Depression or... ? [Re: Sven]
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#464677 - 04/28/14 02:44 AM Re: Depression or... ? [Re: Sven]
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Hey, Sven,
Sounds like you're in a rough season. What does "giving up" mean to you right now?
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#464680 - 04/28/14 04:27 AM Re: Depression or... ? [Re: Sven]
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Registered: 10/09/13
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Loc: St. Croix, USVI
Hi Sven,

It was hard for me to break through personal taboos about talking. I had so many internalized messages from abuse that told me I wasn't worthwhile, nobody would believe me, someone would hurt me, and on and on and on...... Endless. Of course, none of them were or are true. But it was hard. I understand how hard it can be to talk, but expressing myself has always helped me to organize and make sense out of the craziness that screeches through my head most of the time. It doesn't freak me out much any more. Now, it's kind of like an old friend that I send love to, but don't allow it to influence my life very much.

Glad you're here, and glad you're talking at the level you can right now.

Keeping you in my thoughts.


Don
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#464715 - 04/28/14 04:28 PM Re: Depression or... ? [Re: Sven]
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#464717 - 04/28/14 05:18 PM Re: Depression or... ? [Re: Sven]
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Registered: 10/11/11
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sven man
There are literally thousands of men in your corner man. you are right in the thick of the struggle and have way more to deal with then anyone should. I hope that you can know this, you are a great man! always were. dude it is not surprising that you would struggle with some depression and even more. first breathe. long strong and healthy breaths to clear your mind. Then look to find someone who can help you find your way through. this site is a great help but we cant be there near you much as we might would like to. find a rape crisis center,a counselor, a support group even an aids support group. somewhere that you can find a real person to talk to. this does not have to be anywhere near the end man there are possibilities you will not even be able to think of for some time now. I hope you will hod on man give your life a chance to settle and see what can be I know it is so possible it will just take time dude. but
YOU ARE WORTH WHATEVER IT TAKES.I promise
jeff
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