Can I say that your post made me grin? Maybe it is not the best reaction to think it funny if we manage to confuse our survivors, but they confuse us so often that it kind of feels like "see, that's what I'm feeling all the time!"
Anyway, I think you're doing great in terms of handling the situation and your marriage. What you describe about getting your social needs met and still being open in the relationship sounds like a wholesome, healthy approach. Now healthy approaches are sometimes confusing to survivors because they have little experience with them. But I think in time this new-found freedom and a little more chilled approach to the relationship (less nagging, less frustration, still getting needs met) will serve you very well. Thumbs up from me!