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#462446 - 03/12/14 03:25 AM Re: what tactics did your abuser used to groom you? [Re: jas4159]
WriterKeith Offline

Registered: 12/30/10
Posts: 980
Loc: California
It was my father. He was charming, witty, a highly respected evangelical/pentecostal church board member and deacon, a Boy Scout leader, and the leader of the church children's ministry.

He used the church teachings to force us to submit to his assaults and to suffer in silence. He often referred to the story of Abraham and Isaac, and the scriptures stating that children must obey their parents and that the man is the head of the house.
I have taken to the stand-up comedy stage to educate other male survivors and those who try to love them. I blog about my isolated religious upbringing where physical and sexual abuse were commonplace and I serve as a facilitator of a weekly support group for men who have suffered sexual assault.

#462449 - 03/12/14 08:41 AM Re: what tactics did your abuser used to groom you? [Re: jas4159]
On The Fringe Offline

Registered: 09/21/13
Posts: 326
Loc: Southeast USA
His type of abuse of our very trust in God seems quite revolting at first glance.

I know I fall short in many ways myself. Sorry you had that betrayal and misuse of trust from your father and his misrepresentation of God.

I have noticed that we as humans will do almost anything to get sexual pleasure. Some have the mental control aspect, some want violent domination, or William g submital.

The distortion of he sex drive can be so toxic. And those that are so damaged in that way seem to never recover. They become the serial offenders.
I feel more like I do now than I did when I got here.

#462537 - 03/13/14 04:15 PM Re: what tactics did your abuser used to groom you? [Re: jas4159]
jas4159 Offline

Registered: 06/16/11
Posts: 474
Loc: New Hampshire
thanks everyone. this has been reveiling


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