When I think of "cost," I think of the price I've paid to move toward healing.
In reference to the abuse and its aftermath, I would say it took much...very much...from my life. It crippled my relationships, career, physical health, and self-image.
But in the end I am making something better than I imagined of my life. Not there yet, but very well on the way.
I have taken to the stand-up comedy stage to educate other male survivors and those who try to love them. I blog about my isolated religious upbringing where physical and sexual abuse were commonplace and I serve as a facilitator of a weekly support group for men who have suffered sexual assault.