Hi bc1092 and ThisMan,
I need to clarify what I meant by what I said. First, I can't know what is the right thing for bc1092 to do. I only know from my own experience, based on the abuse I grew up in that I had a pattern of aggressive dependency. I was drawn to abusive people like a moth to flame. And, I would symbolically find ways to shake them and shake them in an effort to get them to see me and value me. This was a repetition of the relationship with my parents, also my abusers, and it was all I knew.
Where I have evolved over the years is that there is NOTHING for me to be gained in relationships with abusive people. I believe in defining clear boundaries and limits for myself, but what I have found is the boundaries and limits I need to set are usually with myself. This means spending no time or energy trying to get abusive people to understand me. It simply is not possible in my experience. So, for me, the limits and boundaries I set these days are with myself in excluding abusive or bullying people completely from my life. My experience is that I have to clear space in my life for sensitive, kind, gentle people. As long as I clutter my space with people who are abusive or bullying, the sensitive, kind and gentle people won't find me.
Divine Law is not judgment or denial of self truths. Divine Law is honoring harmony that comes from a peaceful mind, an open heart, a true tongue, a light step, a forgiving nature, and a love of all living creatures. Jamie Sams & David Carson, Medicine Cards