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#460227 - 02/06/14 10:38 PM Re: First post [Re: enoughalready]
Chase Eric Offline

Registered: 10/25/10
Posts: 2829
Originally Posted By: enoughalready
I've read some introductions and already I'm struggling with the thought that some of these guys must be exaggerating or lying. Yet, I feel like vomIting. I don't know what to make of all this. Tears, tears and gut-wrenching pain. More later.

You know, I was struck so much by this. The first survivor forum I visited was run by a self-proclaimed survivor named "Tuggy" and ultimately he turned out to be a fake. So I always have a healthy dose of skepticism. But the story that hit me with the most incredulity, surprisingly enough, was my own. Until I came here, I never wrote it out. When I finally did, then read what I wrote, I was like - wow - really??? I think there is something magical about getting it in front of you and finally "seeing" it in that way for the first time. I never realized until I wrote out my intro just what an astoundingly awful mess of a situation I was in. And I navigated it all by myself and just kept the secrets and "dealt" with it - like so many here. Once I finally saw it, though, I found the ability to really begin to draw the connections - the dysfunctions I inherited directly from that period. Sharing has been a self-integrating experience.

#461584 - 02/27/14 12:45 AM Re: First post [Re: enoughalready]
Andrew3172 Offline

Registered: 01/24/14
Posts: 11
Hi I understand that you might think that about some of the posts .but all of us have gone through different experiences with being sa I know that what I experienced was different from what you have it is all bad what happened to us. I can't say that what I went through was worse than what you went through because I am not you man. But I agree there are some that are out to cause harm .I hope that you find some help here like I have and find peace for yourself man..

#461898 - 03/02/14 10:22 PM Re: First post [Re: enoughalready]
Adam A Gedman Offline

Registered: 08/12/13
Posts: 188
Loc: Canada

I am sorry for your reason to be here, but glad for you that you have taken this step.

It is hard to fathom the tragedies that we have all endured, I understand this feeling. Yet the stories at least initially, likely downplay the harm and effects. This is our curse.

If you are here you were harmed, and this applies to us all.

If this is too much for you right now, maybe try writing offline, where no one else can see.Ease into it if it is too much, eventually, when you can speak your truth, you'll likely find that the support and empathy you receive will bring on the healing we all so desperately need.

Welcome and take care
Presence is the key, for all we have is now.
All we ever have is right now.

Formerly Adam A Gedman (AKA - A damAGed man)

But you can call me Kevin

Toronto Mini WoR - May 2014

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