I just want to chime in here, I did a really in-dept look at these issues in my post Trans porn, bisexuality, crossdressing, surviving
Gabbahey, from the references you listed, I believe that you will find this interesting!
It is really worth reading. It also addresses the issue of trans and homosexual.
jessedawg, the situation that you mention (daughter sometimes feels like a boy, sometimes feels like a girl) is something that I deal with everyday. There is a classic (no right answer) questions that therapists ask people who are transitioning: I have 2 pills in my hands, a red and a blue. Take the red and your body changes to match the gender of your brain. Take the blue and your brain changes to match the gender of your body. Which do you take?
My answer is neither. There are times I like being a male, and times that I like being a female. As a male I am heterosexual, I am only attracted to women (MTF transexuals included). As a female I am bisexual; attracted to both men and women. This is not multiple personalities, it is always me. (You think regular bisexuality is hard to explain...
I saw the quote:
if you choose to label yourself bisexual---neither world accepts you or trusts you. I know, I've been there
There is a false assumption here that permeates our society, and that is I need to have my gay or straight "union card stamped" to be validated. I could care less what any group OR even society things of me. Whether it is the fundamentalist right, the the gay movement, the civil rights [minority] movement, the feminist movement, etc. to validate who I am as a person.
These are just groups trying to hold on to power by tying their relevance to the validation of individuals (their members). There have been a backlash by WOMEN against the feminist movement. Here is just one example: 15 Sassy Photos Show Why These Women are Rejecting the Feminist Movement
. (If you need further references, I will provide them.
What is driving this? $$$ MONEY $$$
How much money is tied to all these nonprofits whether they be megachurches, civil rights organizations, female empowerment organizations (think women's shelters, women's studies departments in universities), and the list goes on. The same has been said of cancer, there is more money in treating it than curing it. (See: NY Times
Remember the 1977 sitcom Soap
? One of the best lines from that was by Jody (played by Billy Crystal). Jody was gay and trying to get custody of his daughter (long plot line). He was asked if he was a "practicing homosexual." His response was, "I don't have to practice, I am d**n good at it!" That is how I feel about all these groups.
At one time they served a necessary purpose (and some still do), but most are just businesses. Unions at one time protected workers from employers who did not care about workers or their safety ( Triangle Shirtwaist Factory fire
). Others made their money on the backs and lives of their workers ( coal mine company store
Today the biggest unions are teachers and government employees. Is our government such an evil employer with such unsafe conditions and so low pay (pensions) that government employees need unions?
Let me leave with this final thought:
Well, Freud said that the only unnatural sexual behavior was to have none at all. And after that, it's just a question of opportunity and preference. -Gil Grissom (CSI: Crime Scene Investigation, CBS)
Just my thoughts.