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#461661 - 02/27/14 08:33 PM brand new here
Gypsy123 Offline


Registered: 02/27/14
Posts: 4
Hi people im new here as of yesterday arvo. (southern hemisphere time) I found this "site" on a study my Therapist gave me to read two days ago. The study was american of 26 men who had been abused. Deep down i think i knew i wasnt alone in this but to see these mens thoughts on paper was a shock to me. What these guys described and thought was ME! Lastnight i went online and had a look through some forums here. The understanding and compassion is AMAZING. I must admit some things gave me vivid nightmares. I suppose a trigger. I think that is normal thyough. Thankyou all for being here and talking. Its noot the done thing where im from. Hence all of my female therapists. (i just finds it e3asier that way) anyway everyone TRY and stay strong and ill be reading and typing and making sence of all THIS. Thanks from Gypsy123

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#461662 - 02/27/14 08:40 PM Re: brand new here [Re: Gypsy123]
traveler Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3959
Loc: settling in the USA again
hey, Gypsy -

good that you found us. sorry about the triggers. yeah - that happens. take it easy and don't overdo it. i got so badly triggered my first time that i didn't come back - or even remember i'd come here before - for several years. so please be as gentle, kind and understanding with yourself as you can. take breaks when you need to.

tell us more about yourself when you feel able to. it really does help. and there is guaranteed to be someone who will understand - the support and affirmation from other members here is amazing. it has been a lifeline for me. and a big bonus is being able to give others an understanding ear and helping hand as well.

i am open to PMs if you ever feel the need.
wishing you well,
lee
_________________________
"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

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#461663 - 02/27/14 08:55 PM Re: brand new here [Re: Gypsy123]
Gypsy123 Offline


Registered: 02/27/14
Posts: 4
Thankyou lee. I will move forward slowly. (thats the opposite to how i normally do things lol) I just watched a link from a post called bikes against child abuse. Thats given me strength to get out of my own headspace and do simple things ie, grocery shop.
Thanks again everyone. Ill be back when ive fuelled up. Ive been told by health pros that i MUST eat when im in this space. I hope to tell more about myself soon. Like i said slowly. One day at a time. Cheers Gypsy123

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#461674 - 02/27/14 11:13 PM Re: brand new here [Re: Gypsy123]
Jude Offline


Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1633
Loc: New England
Welcome Gypsy,

It sounds like you are well on your way to healing. Let nothing sidetrack you.

Be well,

Jude
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I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Sarah McLachlan

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#461676 - 02/27/14 11:22 PM Re: brand new here [Re: Gypsy123]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 6297
Loc: 𝒪 𝒦anada
welcome, gypsy123.
looking forward to hearing more from you.
take your time,
guard your soul and protect your heart at all times.
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Victor|Victim

War
Love
Poetry

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#461797 - 03/01/14 12:45 PM Re: brand new here [Re: Gypsy123]
WriterKeith Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 12/30/10
Posts: 980
Loc: California
Hi, Gypsy,

Welcome aboard; you're in good company, I assure you. I'll keep an eye out for you in the forums and chat.

If ever you visit the chatroom (it took me several weeks after I joined) you'll find some good folks there. Many have become online friends over a period of time and so the conversation may, at times, be lighthearted about current events or daily personal matters like hobbies, etc. If ever you enter chat and need to break into the conversation to ask something more "on topic" about what's going on in your own life, please feel free to do so. That's why we're all here.

You're surrounded with support here.
_________________________
I have taken to the stand-up comedy stage to educate other male survivors and those who try to love them. I blog about my isolated religious upbringing where physical and sexual abuse were commonplace and I serve as a facilitator of a weekly support group for men who have suffered sexual assault.

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#461903 - 03/02/14 05:43 PM Re: brand new here [Re: Gypsy123]
Adam A Gedman Offline


Registered: 08/12/13
Posts: 188
Loc: Canada
Hey Gypsy,

I am sorry for your reason to be here, but glad for you that you have found us.

It took me many years to get here, but thank the day that I found this site.
The idea of group therapy scared the hell out of me, and so this site was the happy middle ground, and has helped me tremendously.

I too hope you can find the healing you need. There is an incredible amount of support and empathy to be had.

Speak your truth when you are ready, and we will be here to listen.

Take care and welcome.
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Presence is the key, for all we have is now.
All we ever have is right now.

Formerly Adam A Gedman (AKA - A damAGed man)

But you can call me Kevin

Toronto Mini WoR - May 2014

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#461921 - 03/02/14 09:40 PM Re: brand new here [Re: Gypsy123]
gettingstronger Offline


Registered: 09/24/13
Posts: 308
Loc: Virginia
Hi Gypsy,

Welcome aboard! I'm glad you found this site! The information here, and all the supportive people, have truly been nothing short of a miracle for me. I was "stuck in the mud" for nearly forty years until I found this place, then the healing really started to happen.

I hope you have the same experience. In the meantime, you're with friends. PM, post or chat as you see fit and are comfortable, and most of all, be kind to yourself.

If I can make a reading recommendation or two, I'd recommend reading the "all lies!" thread here at MS. It does a wonderful job of debunking the falsehoods so many survivors were led to believe. You might also check out the "myths and facts" sections both here and at other sites like www.1in6.org.

Be well and, again, welcome.

Bob

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