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#460635 - 02/13/14 11:18 AM Re: lost (trigger warning) [Re: newground]
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Registered: 02/13/10
Posts: 524
Loc: AZ, U.S.A.
My advice would be to ask for a sedative before the procedure. If you are uncomfortable with the idea of being unconscious around strangers (doctors), is there someone you trust that you can ask to be there with you?
You don't have to be perfect to be wonderful.

#460658 - 02/13/14 07:13 PM Re: lost (trigger warning) [Re: newground]
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Registered: 10/11/11
Posts: 1106
Loc: michigan
hey guys
Sorry it took me until now to report. I did go through with the test though I have not felt so terrified in a long time. I was zoning a bit, my blood pressure was at a place that almost caused them to abort. it all got very awkward and I came to tears but I told them. I told about the abuse and the flash backs that this test was causing. The Dr. was alerted(I was not planning to tell him) and he spoke to me in a very unexpected way. He acknowledged the flashbacks and his understanding of it, and that was it! no poor baby, no it will all be OK, no condescending talk, like we do this all the time. just a simple I know what to do. they had no instruments out at all nothing to trigger me more they simply sedated me which is freaky enough and then it was over. they did some biopsies,I should hear in a week or so but he said things looked good thanks so much for the help and support guys
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#460662 - 02/13/14 08:47 PM Re: lost (trigger warning) [Re: newground]
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 4043
Loc: resettling in NE Ohio
jeff -
i am so glad to hear this. sounds like the doc handled it in a respectful and professional way. i hope you felt validated.
hoping for the results to be healthy, too.
"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

#460685 - 02/14/14 01:01 AM Re: lost (trigger warning) [Re: newground]
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Registered: 11/26/11
Posts: 118
Loc: Hamilton, ON Canada
I'm glad to hear it went well and was over quickly. Hopefully the test results come back favourable for you too.

My surgery on Monday went pretty well - it was over quickly too. I really think that the speed at which they do a lot of these things helps a lot in that the worst part doesn't last long and you don't have to endure being worked on for a lot of time. The idea that it was going to be over soon was what got me through it, and got me through the first wound dressing change yesterday too (that was almost as rough as the surgery itself - painful!).

One other thing that would probably be good for all of us to remember came to mind when I was in the waiting room on Monday surrounded by other visibly nervous patients: Nobody, nobody likes going to the hospital for surgery. Medical procedures are probably rougher on abuse survivors but it's still far from a walk in the park for normal people - that playing field is probably more level than we think...
If it's a choice between laughing or crying, I'd rather laugh.

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