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#458481 - 01/11/14 08:34 PM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
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(((Husky)))

I've already replied to the PM you sent before your travel. I imagine the great fear of leaping into the unknown. Just think of the untold discovery that awaits you just for opening the door and stepping through it.

You'll be fine in time. This is for you, my friend, and I wish you all the luck and success you deserve.

Will

There are some things one can only achieve by a deliberate leap in the opposite direction. -Franz Kafka
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#458483 - 01/11/14 09:01 PM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
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Hello Husky. Wow, to call this a big step would be a massive understatement! The situation with your family is so toxic and if there is any way you can break away from it and make it on your own, congrats and good luck. You are a very strong and brave man. You may not always feel like it, but you are. Good luck with this and, when it gets hard, please don't hesitate to reach out to us. Stay strong, my friend. Peace,

Ken

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#458486 - 01/11/14 09:59 PM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
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Husky,

You deserve to have a life of your own choosing. While you can't leave behind your baggage, you can have a life where you call the shots and make the decisions without being judged. Good for you. Keep us informed.

Jude
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#458488 - 01/11/14 10:15 PM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
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Registered: 09/24/13
Posts: 308
Loc: Virginia
Hi Husky,

Congratulations! I know from experience how hard it can be to leave a really toxic family. Things in my family came to such a head at one point that I wrote them a four-page letter detailing what was wrong (codependency and other issues, not sexual abuse) and laying down boundaries as to what I would accept going forward. Their answer (also by letter) was to deny there was any problem at all, chastise me for being a bad son, and offer a lip-service, vague apology "if there were any misunderstandings."

I didn't talk to any of them for four and one-half years. They eventually came around, but it took THAT long, and longer still for me to eventually be able to trust them.

Sorry-- not trying to hijack. But I know what it's like, and I know the freedom you will be enjoying soon. We all need the right level of autonomy, and no one needs a toxic family. Good for you!

Bob

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#458493 - 01/12/14 12:23 AM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
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But Husky when and how we will now be playing tennis if you are moving so far, lol?

Congratulation on this step. You are very brave and I'm absolutely sure that everything will be alright. Keep us updated!
I'll be thinking on you all this time smile
(((Husky))))

Pero
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#458495 - 01/12/14 12:28 AM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: peroperic2009]
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Husky,

You're doing the right thing. There will be some pain at first but after that you'll start feeling better. You will feel a loneliness which you will need to fill with new relationships.

Puffer

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#458497 - 01/12/14 01:03 AM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
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Edited by concerned_husky (08/30/15 06:49 AM)
Edit Reason: Reducing ties with MS.
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#458500 - 01/12/14 07:14 AM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
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Husky:

Amazing news. Best of luck on the ground now with all that this new phase in life brings.

SayIt
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#458508 - 01/12/14 10:03 AM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
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Hi Husky. You are in my thoughts on your new day. Don
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#458511 - 01/12/14 10:52 AM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
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I hope your journal is electronic or I bet you would run out of paper soon!

I hope there are moments you are able to enjoy as you take these steps into your new life. So happy for you.

((((Husky))))
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