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#458481 - 01/11/14 08:34 PM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
Suwanee Offline

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Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 1145

I've already replied to the PM you sent before your travel. I imagine the great fear of leaping into the unknown. Just think of the untold discovery that awaits you just for opening the door and stepping through it.

You'll be fine in time. This is for you, my friend, and I wish you all the luck and success you deserve.


There are some things one can only achieve by a deliberate leap in the opposite direction. -Franz Kafka
"His voice rose under the black smoke before the burning wreckage of the island; and infected by that emotion, the other little boys began to shake and sob too. And in the middle of them....Ralph wept for the end of innocence, the darkness of man’s heart…”. -----William Golding

#458483 - 01/11/14 09:01 PM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
BraveFalcon Offline

Registered: 02/25/13
Posts: 1231
Loc: The ATL

Hello Husky. Wow, to call this a big step would be a massive understatement! The situation with your family is so toxic and if there is any way you can break away from it and make it on your own, congrats and good luck. You are a very strong and brave man. You may not always feel like it, but you are. Good luck with this and, when it gets hard, please don't hesitate to reach out to us. Stay strong, my friend. Peace,


#458486 - 01/11/14 09:59 PM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1633
Loc: New England

You deserve to have a life of your own choosing. While you can't leave behind your baggage, you can have a life where you call the shots and make the decisions without being judged. Good for you. Keep us informed.

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Sarah McLachlan

#458488 - 01/11/14 10:15 PM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
gettingstronger Offline

Registered: 09/24/13
Posts: 308
Loc: Virginia
Hi Husky,

Congratulations! I know from experience how hard it can be to leave a really toxic family. Things in my family came to such a head at one point that I wrote them a four-page letter detailing what was wrong (codependency and other issues, not sexual abuse) and laying down boundaries as to what I would accept going forward. Their answer (also by letter) was to deny there was any problem at all, chastise me for being a bad son, and offer a lip-service, vague apology "if there were any misunderstandings."

I didn't talk to any of them for four and one-half years. They eventually came around, but it took THAT long, and longer still for me to eventually be able to trust them.

Sorry-- not trying to hijack. But I know what it's like, and I know the freedom you will be enjoying soon. We all need the right level of autonomy, and no one needs a toxic family. Good for you!


#458493 - 01/12/14 12:23 AM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
peroperic2009 Offline


Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3791
Loc: South-East Europe
But Husky when and how we will now be playing tennis if you are moving so far, lol?

Congratulation on this step. You are very brave and I'm absolutely sure that everything will be alright. Keep us updated!
I'll be thinking on you all this time smile

My story

#458495 - 01/12/14 12:28 AM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: peroperic2009]
pufferfish Offline

Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6875
Loc: USA

You're doing the right thing. There will be some pain at first but after that you'll start feeling better. You will feel a loneliness which you will need to fill with new relationships.


#458497 - 01/12/14 01:03 AM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
concerned_husky Offline

Registered: 08/29/12
Posts: 766

Edited by concerned_husky (08/30/15 06:49 AM)
Edit Reason: Reducing ties with MS.

"Only the solitary seek the truth, and they break with all those who don't love it sufficiently." - Pasternak

#458500 - 01/12/14 07:14 AM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
SayItRight Offline

Registered: 10/06/13
Posts: 104

Amazing news. Best of luck on the ground now with all that this new phase in life brings.

I always tried one thing:
To make what happened to me not matter at all.
Turns out, it was supposed to matter.
Who knew?

#458508 - 01/12/14 10:03 AM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
don64 Offline

Registered: 10/09/13
Posts: 1104
Loc: St. Croix, USVI
Hi Husky. You are in my thoughts on your new day. Don
Divine Law is not judgment or denial of self truths. Divine Law is honoring harmony that comes from a peaceful mind, an open heart, a true tongue, a light step, a forgiving nature, and a love of all living creatures. Jamie Sams & David Carson, Medicine Cards

#458511 - 01/12/14 10:52 AM Re: I'm Leaving My Family [Re: concerned_husky]
Rich1967 Offline

Registered: 07/17/13
Posts: 549
Loc: PA
I hope your journal is electronic or I bet you would run out of paper soon!

I hope there are moments you are able to enjoy as you take these steps into your new life. So happy for you.

"Me too"-I don't think I will ever get tired of saying or hearing these two words.
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