My comment is not in the context of "knee jerk" reactions/emotional filled choices. It's about being more aware of what is of value to us and taking the time to give thought to what we want and making the choice that will help us aspire to the life want to create.
For example, each morning of the work week I have the freedom to choose to go to work or not. By choosing not to go to work I am not making a choice that will help me create the life I want for me and my family.
No one can make you feel inferior without your permission
Don't take anything personally
It's not the event, it's the meaning applied to it