The secret of others in real life around you Sam and Greg is that most are "non abused".
his statement from SamV says much that is true. In fact, it may be the biggest truth I have learned on this journey. You cannot carry a steamer trunk full of secrets on your back through your entire childhood without it deeply affecting almost every aspect of your life. The paradox, however, is that it became such an every day thing for so many of us. For me the summer I turned thirteen went like this: wake up, brush my teeth, go to school, play some sandlot baseball until it was too dark to see the ball, then listen to the older boy schmooze my mom into letting her little boy (me!) camp out with him in the back yard.I
t was just every day. And they become your normal. The things I had to acquiesce to in that tent would blow your mind - they should blow my mind. As I told my therapist the play-by-play, I remember being taken aback by the shock I saw in his eyes. And to me, it was just my "normal" - no big deal. It was only with the help of a good therapist that I was able to look back and see what a sham I had created of my life just to avoid stepping on all the landmines.I
t's like finally looking in a mirror and seeing yourself for the first time. I did ...what? I did ...that
? And then I ...walked away? There was this movie I saw years ago with Jeff Bridges, about a guy who survived the crash of an airliner. He walks through this surreal landscape of wreckage and blood, rents a car, checks into a hotel and doesn't tell a soul.H
ow many of us were like that? How many of us are in that weird club of shared experience that actually understands