"If I do not want what you want,

please try not to tell me that my

want is wrong.

Or if I believe other than you,

at least pause before you correct my


Or if my emotion is less than yours,

or more, given the same


try not to ask me to feel more

strongly or weakly.

Or yet if I act, or fail to act,

in the manner of your design for

action, let me be.

I do not, for the moment at least,

ask you to understand me.

That will come only when you are

willing to give up changing me into

a copy of you.

I may be your spouse, your parent,

your offspring, your friend, or your


If you allow me any of my own wants,

or beliefs, or actions, then you

open your-self, so that someday

these wants of mine might not seem

so wrong, and might finally appear

to you as right - for me.

To put up with me is the first step

in understanding me.

Not that you embrace my ways as

right for you, but that you are no

longer irritated or disappointed

with me for my seeming waywardness.

And in understanding me you might

come to prize my differences from

you, and far from seeking to change

me, preserve and even nurture those


From: "Please Understand Me"
by David Keirsey