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#45675 - 08/09/02 07:05 PM Hello everyone
Dan88 Offline

Registered: 08/07/02
Posts: 247
Loc: DC
Hi guys,
I registered the other day and wanted to say hello and quit hiding out.

I'm a 39-y-o man. Molested from age 7 to 14 by a minister who befriended my mother shortly after my dad died.

I used to go through these periods where I would wrestle with it. Then I would think, whew, thankfully I'm over that now. But I guess it will be with me forever.

Right now I'm really working hard to quit looking backwards at all the mistakes and poor choices I've made and start looking forward. But I'm not there yet.

Look forward to visiting here and hopefully making progress together.
- Dan88

#45676 - 08/09/02 09:13 PM Re: Hello everyone
JamesMichael Offline

Registered: 07/24/02
Posts: 134
Hi Guys,

I just wanted to stop-in and say hello. I'm feeling drowsy these days from all the stuff I'm remembering/processing. Like: being hung out a window 2 stories high when I was 3-4 years old by an older brother and watching him delight in my horror, having the same brother coach me to put my fingers in an electric outlet when I was 5-6 and telling me to put my tongue on a transistor battery and feeling the zap. This was as bad as the "other" abuse. I'm remembering more details of my early childhood and I simply can't believe I survived! I think I can only just get this much out right now. I'm doing ok, it's just phenomenal what we've stuffed so that we could just keep breathing. I'm really touched by Erik's (Sweden) honest sharings. I need more practice at "telling my story." I want to tell it all, but who would believe it? I have to push myself.

This is a great place though I can't be here as much as I'd like.

Uhh, can someone reply with an encouraging word?



#45677 - 08/09/02 10:41 PM Re: Hello everyone

Welcome Dan88!

My name is rafael and I also am a 39 year old survivor. I have been visiting this site for a couple months and using the discussion board and sometimes it really lifts me up. I hope it can do the same thing for you. Sincerely,

rafael \:\)

#45678 - 08/09/02 11:28 PM Re: Hello everyone
Lloydy Offline
Administrator Emeritus
Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
Dan and James
Welcome to our group of friends, supporters and believers. It's sad you need to be here, or any of us for that matter, but you're making a giant step by coming here, and it's in the right direction.

We dont peddle miracle cures, but we do offer a friendly shoulder to lean on and a sympathetic ear for your troubles.

We hope we can help some.
Lloydy \:\)

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
Henry David Thoreau

#45679 - 08/10/02 12:15 AM Re: Hello everyone
Roy Offline

Registered: 08/02/02
Posts: 184
Loc: Los Angeles
Hello to both of you, Dan and JamesMichael. I have only been here a few days and have already gotten a great deal out of it. Mostly just feeling like I am not so alone and "freakish". I have such a need to discuss the various aspects of this nonsense and how it has affected my life and there are just no outlets back in the real world. You are on the right track by sharing yourselves here. Just keep talking.

#45680 - 08/11/02 11:29 PM Re: Hello everyone
The Dean Offline
Moderator Emeritus
Registered: 07/15/02
Posts: 2080
Loc: Milwaukee, WI
Hi Dan and James,
I hope you are both experieincing some of the strength we can get from each other.
Sibling abuse is hard to deal with. I had too much of it in my life to feel that I can ever have it behind me. I think what we try to do is to put it in a place where it does not bug us.
Come on the chat room too, the guys there are great.
Of course, I always take it for granted that you are in therapy. I can't imagine trying to deal with this crap without the help of a skilled therapist. Hope you have good friends near by to support you too.

If we do not live what we believe, then we will begin to believe what we live.

#45681 - 08/12/02 02:37 AM Re: Hello everyone
Ken Followell Offline
Past President

Registered: 12/30/01
Posts: 992
Loc: Bradenton, FL
Welcome guys,

Sorry you need to find us here, but glad you have. Others have told you, but do stop by the chatroom, it is a great place and helps to get to know each other there.


Ken Followell

Everything works out right in the end. If things are not working right, it isn't the end yet. Don't let it bother you, relax and keep on goin
- Michael C. Muhammad

"I get up. I walk. I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing."
� Rabbi Hillel

#45682 - 08/12/02 06:57 PM Re: Hello everyone
SoCalJohn Offline

Registered: 05/18/01
Posts: 510
Loc: Los Angeles, California

Welcome to the homestead, glad you made it here, sorry you have to be here, it does kinda suck huh? but anways, this is a good place, lots of good people here, so hang out a bit and feel free to join in anywhere any time, this is your home too ya know.


I asked him about this law he spoke of, he said,,, *watch* he then asked the others to share about their lives,,, the others talked of how things were for them, how things worked in their lives,,, and as they believed, it was so.


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