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#453905 - 11/16/13 04:00 AM not safe
traveler Online   confused
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 4223
Loc: resettling in NE Ohio
with regret - i need to say that this "Spirituality" forum is no longer a safe place for me.

bye,
LEE
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Or cry out to you, “Violence!” but you do not save?
Why do you make me look at injustice?
Why do you tolerate wrongdoing?...
Therefore the law is paralyzed, and justice never prevails....
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#453935 - 11/16/13 11:24 AM Re: not safe [Re: traveler]
peroperic2009 Offline
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Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3856
Loc: South-East Europe
Please be calm Lee. There is no need to feel unsafe here.
We are dealing with those who are bringing and transferring raw and negative emotions recklessly.
Also be free to use mod alert or "Notify" tip under any topic if you find it offensive.

Pero
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#453983 - 11/16/13 05:28 PM Re: not safe [Re: traveler]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 6387
Loc: 𝒪 𝒦anada
i feel safe here.
i wonder what has happened to you.

please don't leave unless YOU want to.
don't let anyone force you out.

if someone is making you feel unsafe,
just report them to the modteam.
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#454031 - 11/16/13 08:32 PM Re: not safe [Re: traveler]
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Registered: 07/14/12
Posts: 490
At the moment I agree with Lee.
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#454049 - 11/16/13 10:50 PM Re: not safe [Re: traveler]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 6387
Loc: 𝒪 𝒦anada
what is happening?

are you saying you don't feel safe here, BuffaloCD?
or are you saying that you agree with Lee's decision to leave?
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#454081 - 11/17/13 03:52 AM Re: not safe [Re: traveler]
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Posts: 490
Don't feel safe in this forum and agree with his decision to leave this thread, at least for a while. So both I guess.
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#454086 - 11/17/13 04:21 AM Re: not safe [Re: traveler]
victor-victim Offline


Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 6387
Loc: 𝒪 𝒦anada
but you are still here.
that is a good sign.
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#454087 - 11/17/13 04:33 AM Re: not safe [Re: traveler]
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Registered: 07/14/12
Posts: 490
not leaving ms, just posting here for a while, maybe permanently, not sure
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#454088 - 11/17/13 04:36 AM Re: not safe [Re: traveler]
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Registered: 10/29/13
Posts: 201
What is the safety issue
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#454222 - 11/18/13 01:30 PM Re: not safe [Re: traveler]
JustScott Offline
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Registered: 01/28/08
Posts: 2615
Loc: Central PA
Agreed with Lee and Buffalo. And I know it's not a big deal to many because I really do little more than lurk 99% of the time, but that "Unsafe" deal is the main reason, and that was LONG before what has obviously just transpired, so I know nothing of the current goings on.

I've felt "unsafe" and relegated to the shadows for a long time. Sadly I have no other venue's to turn to or I would.

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#454224 - 11/18/13 01:40 PM Re: not safe [Re: traveler]
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Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1634
Loc: kansas
I, too, agree that I feel unsafe.

my reason is that I've seen many survivors being attacked across the board for, basically, being a Christian and sharing how their faith has helped them.

this forum, the one place where Christian survivors should be able to feel safe in expressing how their faith and beliefs have helped them in their recoveries, is the worst. This forum is where Christian survivors are being attacked the most.

I don't feel safe here and I understand why many other Christian survivors don't feel safe here, or even on MS.
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#454233 - 11/18/13 02:13 PM not safe
Castle Offline


Registered: 10/03/09
Posts: 758
Its sad so many don't feel safe.

However, This is not just a Christian forum, but the spirituality forum and should be open to everybody to express thier views pro or con religion/ spirituality.

There needs to be a safe place to work through the rightful anger and rage some have from personal experience with religion in thier past. If there are not safe places to share/ voice/ workthrough the pain its possible that it could manifest elsewhere in an unsafe possible damaging way.

While there have been issues in the past, I looked at the last page of pro religion posts and saw nit one response from a non believer in those threads...I can't say the opposite is true as one man was trying to work through his issues and was met with preaching. That's where it went bad.

I've been in talks with one of the mods about making it safer fir everybody... but we have to consider there are two very different polarized views on this topic. What some feel as life saving other feel as life depleting.

If we keep this particular thread peaceful, maybe we can start to work through the issue.
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#454241 - 11/18/13 02:45 PM Re: not safe [Re: traveler]
Castle Offline


Registered: 10/03/09
Posts: 758
we all know people who left ms for a variety of reasons... but as noted in a recent thread about sex.... do we look at our own reasons why its bothersome vs try to sway the " partner" to our side?
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#454246 - 11/18/13 03:04 PM Re: not safe [Re: traveler]
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It appears this topic has communicated the views of the OP and has been considered by the member's thoroughly. Using the discussion board to explore situations, thoughts and emotions is beneficial and healthy, until such time that the discussion becomes contrary to the goals and purposes of MaleSurvivor. This topic has been discussed and for the purposes of recovery has been thoroughly answered. Site management continually strives to provide an environment safe for the purpose of pursuing ones recovery from the effects of past sexual abuse. Please do not attempt to repost this topic, as doing so may be cause for further action by site management.

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