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#451885 - 10/30/13 06:08 PM It's OK To Be Depressed
concerned_husky Offline

Registered: 08/29/12
Posts: 766

Edited by concerned_husky (08/30/15 06:33 AM)
Edit Reason: Reducing ties with MS.

"Only the solitary seek the truth, and they break with all those who don't love it sufficiently." - Pasternak

#451922 - 10/30/13 08:11 PM Re: It's OK To Be Depressed [Re: concerned_husky]
don64 Offline

Registered: 10/09/13
Posts: 1104
Loc: St. Croix, USVI
Hi Husky,

I have read that love and compassion are more effective for "weeding" than aggression. Seems to be true for me. Depression has changed for me to sadness. I don't know if I used to believe that the sadness would destroy me or not. But it does not. The sadness is about something I do not have and/or did not have. It is important information. It tells me what I care about and provides me with clues about what kinds of things I need to learn in order to move in that direction. It is the process of moving out of negative thinking into positive thinking. Challenging but doable.

Love and good will Husky.

Divine Law is not judgment or denial of self truths. Divine Law is honoring harmony that comes from a peaceful mind, an open heart, a true tongue, a light step, a forgiving nature, and a love of all living creatures. Jamie Sams & David Carson, Medicine Cards

#451974 - 10/30/13 10:37 PM Re: It's OK To Be Depressed [Re: concerned_husky]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3950
Loc: settling in the USA again
Originally Posted By: concerned_husky
So now, I tell myself: “Look, you’ve got a lot on your mind.
It’s OK to feel bad. It’s OK to be depressed.
Take a deep breath, and don’t forget to unwind;
And fuck all the others who are less than impressed.”

wink i second that!

"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"

#452047 - 10/31/13 12:21 PM Re: It's OK To Be Depressed [Re: concerned_husky]
Cthulhu Offline

Registered: 06/13/13
Posts: 155
Yay for pseudo-poems wink

I think this poem is exactly right. The only useful thing my psyc did was recommend a bookto me. Basically its idea of depression, determined by three doctors, was your idea right there(go you). It took me a while to digest that idea, but when I did I really identified with it.

I would feel bad, the look at my job, income, apparent social circle. Then call myself an idiot and beat myself down. Now I just try to tell let me brain be sad when it needs to and tell it to shut-up if it starts trying to beat me down. "Fuck you brain! A, B, & C are serious issues most people don't have to deal with! It will take time!"
“what matters most is how well you walk through the fire”
-Charles Bukowski

#452095 - 10/31/13 09:35 PM Re: It's OK To Be Depressed [Re: concerned_husky]
SayItRight Offline

Registered: 10/06/13
Posts: 100
This is awesome. I love the last line. Thanks for posting it.
I always tried one thing:
To make what happened to me not matter at all.
Turns out, it was supposed to matter.
Who knew?


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