I have a request for male survivors. I'm working on an article for the NOMSV webpage for parents of boys who were abused (as well as for parents who suspect their sons may have been abused).

I believe that adult survivors can help parents of these boys by taking a look at their childhood experiences and letting parents know how best to help their sons.

Rather than post replies on this site, I'm asking those of you who wish to give your advice/experience, to email me directly. I will collate your responses and include them (anonymously)in the article which will be posted in the near future on the website.

I'm particularly interested in addressing:

1. What is helpful for parents to do to help a son who was abused? What is not helpful or actually harmful?

2. If a parent suspected his/her son was abused, what kinds of questions would help the child to disclose?

3. If the boy denies anything happened but the parent strongly suspects that he was abused, how should the parent proceed?

Think in terms of young boys (say up to about 8 or 9), pre-adolescents (10-12), and adolescents (13-17).

Please email me at ksinger@njcc.com

Thanks for your help.

Ken Singer, LCSW
President, NOMSV

Blissfully retired after 35 years treating sexual abuse