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#450823 - 10/21/13 02:42 PM I am not Alone
Chris1974 Offline

Registered: 10/15/13
Posts: 3
Loc: San Francisco California
Found this site last week after struggling for years on my own to try and forget and move on from the abuse that happened to me as a boy. Still not sure what to do here what to say what I am ready to share but. Still pretty confused but at least my dark place now is not so dark.

#450825 - 10/21/13 02:44 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Obi Offline

Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1634
Loc: kansas
welcome to ms.
live another day. climb a little higher.

my story

my vlog

#450828 - 10/21/13 02:59 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Zero Offline

Registered: 09/24/13
Posts: 49
Loc: Tennessee
[This user has left the site, post deleted]

Edited by Zero (04/26/15 11:20 PM)

#450843 - 10/21/13 04:46 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Dave PNW Offline

Registered: 04/03/13
Posts: 129
Loc: Pacific Northwest
Hey Chris welcome to MS. Sorry you have to be here, but you have found a good supportive place and community to work through your healing. It takes courage to register and post your introduction. Take your time. You set the pace. No matter what issues you are struggling with there is someone here willing to help. That is what i have found over the last six months i have been here. Welcome.

#450848 - 10/21/13 05:25 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Banjo596 Offline

Registered: 08/20/13
Posts: 81
Loc: Ohio
Welcome Chris.
I came here a short 3 months ago after years of trying to deal with it on my own as you have.
It was the best decision I've made in a long, long time.
Take your time, speak your mind when you feel like it.
I never imagined I would have learned so much and come so far.
Have patience with yourself.

#450865 - 10/21/13 06:28 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 6300
Loc: 𝒪 𝒦anada
glad you found this website.

i believe it can help you.

do lots of reading and you will find things that make sense to you.

be prepared for powerful emotions to pop up.

don't worry, you're just getting to know yourself.

welcome to

wishing you well.


#450882 - 10/21/13 08:57 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3965
Loc: settling in the USA again
yeah, Chris -

dealing with it on our own doesn't work - and neither does forgetting - in the long run - as you have learned. and the confusion is perfectly understandable - a normal response to an abnormal situation.

and far from being alone - there are thousands of us in this same boat with you. welcome.

let us know how we can help.

"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"

#450893 - 10/21/13 10:13 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]

Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 3130

Welcome--I know how difficult this step can be. Remember you need to feel safe and comfortable with what you share. It is a process. We all move at different paces.

We are here for you--when you need to vent please call on us and when you move ahead share and we will share in you achievements and lift you when you are down--we all have been there and it takes people to get us to a place that is healing for our inner being.

Sorry you need to be here--but you have found a wonderful supportive group.


#450932 - 10/22/13 06:22 AM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Suwanee Offline

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Registered: 10/30/12
Posts: 1145

Edited by Suwanee (02/21/16 12:11 PM)
I've got this life
And the will to show
I will always be
Better than before


#450937 - 10/22/13 07:36 AM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
thevision Offline

Registered: 08/25/13
Posts: 9
Loc: Columbus, Ohio
Hi Chris,
I'm happy you've reached out and started your first recovery steps. Chatting with you yesterday was very helpful to me. Thanks for your support.


#451141 - 10/24/13 12:04 AM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
bluesky Offline

Registered: 08/04/13
Posts: 491
Welcome Chris,
Like many of use we find this place after many years of pain and confusion so take it slow do what feels safe and right for you. Just by joining you broke the wall of silence shame and a sens of being all alone. Thanks for honoring us with your presence.

Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain."
Frank Herbert

#451144 - 10/24/13 12:41 AM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1633
Loc: New England
Welcome Chris,

Right off the bat, you've gotten one of the most important lessons in recovery: You are not alone. No more secrets. No more hiding. You will make it!

I will remember you
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Sarah McLachlan

#451687 - 10/29/13 10:33 AM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
CafeMan Offline

Registered: 03/18/13
Posts: 162
Loc: Chicago
Hi, Chris. It's been great chatting with you since you joined. When I first joined the site, the experience was very unknown to me with respect to posting, chatting in the lounge and the overall feelings associated being a member in this club which no one wants to join.

But the fact of the matter is, it happened. There is a sense of safety, community and fellowship in sharing what we all went through and continue to go through in our lives. In one way, the site has helped me fast track some of my issues to either full resolution or near resolution. Therefore, the site and the men here have been very good to me. I hope you find the experience as useful as I have!


#451844 - 10/30/13 12:35 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
nomorevic Offline

Registered: 11/19/12
Posts: 41
Loc: North Carolina
Hello Chris,

Not much that I can add to the previous comments. I am sorry for your pain but also glad you found your way here to Male Survivor.

Welcome and hope you find the support you deserve here.


#451904 - 10/30/13 07:22 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
gettingstronger Offline

Registered: 09/24/13
Posts: 308
Loc: Virginia
Hi Chris,

Welcome. Not much to add but we're all in the same boat and we're all here for one another. Feel free to share as you feel comfortable. Take care,


#451930 - 10/30/13 08:26 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
Bill61 Offline

Registered: 09/29/13
Posts: 41
Loc: Illinois
Welcome to MS Chris,
I like Banjo596 have been on this site for a short period of time. I thought that this could not help me, but in the long run it has helped me. I also went to a Weekend of Recovery Oct 18-20 which I had anxiety feelings that I don't want to go to. What an improvement, I met 25 other men who were also abused and learned ways to let go the pain. On the final day, each man spoke about what they were leaving and what they were taking with them. I left my past and taking to live moment to moment.

Small Stones
"Those who remove mountains begin by carrying away small stones"

"I am in charge of how I fell and I choose HAPPINESS" from The Law of Attraction.

#452580 - 11/05/13 05:02 PM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
nltsaved Offline

Registered: 08/26/08
Posts: 917
Loc: Kc,Mo
That is exactly how i felt after finding this place. The lie I told myself about being alone was shattered after coming here.
I have sense found lots of healing here . I hope you can to welcome
Video of me telling my story
you are not alone never were
Why i hate Religion but love Jesus

#452757 - 11/07/13 08:21 AM Re: I am not Alone [Re: Chris1974]
nomorevic Offline

Registered: 11/19/12
Posts: 41
Loc: North Carolina
Hello Chris and welcome to Male Survivor.

I am fairly new here myself but it has been a game changer for me.
Take your time, go at your own pace, and know that you will find support here. Best to you on your journey of healing.

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