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#450754 - 10/21/13 12:13 PM New member
mikeg Offline

Registered: 10/17/13
Posts: 10
Loc: South Africa
Hi guys
also a ms here, been struggling to make sense of my life thus far, my story is so much alike all of yours, but tried to carry one with my life, got married, but now and again "triggers" happen, would like to meet people to chat to.

#450757 - 10/21/13 12:21 PM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
newground Offline
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Registered: 10/11/11
Posts: 1155
Loc: michigan
Hey mike
you have come to the right place I have found a world of help since I have been here (2 years) just make yourself comfortable and reach out as you can the guys here are do great to do all they can to support and encourage. if there is anything I can do to help out, answer questions or whatever Just P.M. me I'd be glad to help. welcome to Male Survivor man glad you have found us ... sorry you needed to.
Either I will find a way, or I will make one.
Philip Sidney

#450759 - 10/21/13 12:22 PM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]

Registered: 08/31/11
Posts: 3855

Welcome to a place that will be kind and supportive to you. You have taken a courageous step. Write and talk at your own pace, you need to feel safe. We all heal at our own pace and what has worked for one may not work for another.

It can be an emotional roller coaster--ups and downs. Lean on those that support you in the down times.

We are hear and I wish you well on the healing journey.


#450766 - 10/21/13 12:34 PM Re: New member [Re: newground]
mikeg Offline

Registered: 10/17/13
Posts: 10
Loc: South Africa
thank you Jeff, will do, sometime just afraid and shy talking about it

#450767 - 10/21/13 12:35 PM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
mikeg Offline

Registered: 10/17/13
Posts: 10
Loc: South Africa
thank you Kevin appreciate it.

#450769 - 10/21/13 12:58 PM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
Obi Offline

Registered: 12/28/09
Posts: 1634
Loc: kansas
welcome to ms.
live another day. climb a little higher.

my story

my vlog

#450771 - 10/21/13 01:04 PM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
SamV Offline

Registered: 12/13/09
Posts: 5972
Loc: Sunnny, South East USA
Welcome Mike,

Your story is very similar to many survivors, we tried to put the abuse in the past, to move forward, but it came back with overwhelming emotions that demanded their own time in our conscious presence.

It is a struggle, but you are in the right path and the right place. I encourage you to keep sharing, safely and publicly, openly and honestly so that nothing holds back the healing progress and stability.

My best to you!

MaleSurvivor Moderator Emeritus 2012 - 2014

#450773 - 10/21/13 01:17 PM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
don64 Offline

Registered: 10/09/13
Posts: 1106
Hi Mike,

My experience is it's the secrets inside that can kill you. Don't rush anything. Be patient. Take your time. You will naturally find the right people and right situations that are helpful to you and supportive for you. What needs to come up and out will happen when the time is right for you. Welcome and be gentle with yourself. Don
Divine Law is not judgment or denial of self truths. Divine Law is honoring harmony that comes from a peaceful mind, an open heart, a true tongue, a light step, a forgiving nature, and a love of all living creatures. Jamie Sams & David Carson, Medicine Cards

#450774 - 10/21/13 01:30 PM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
peroperic2009 Offline

Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3866
Loc: South-East Europe
Hello Mike, good to see you here!
There are many ways to connect with other survivors: trough personal messages, chat or public broads; so go slowly and search what is the best for you.
If there will be something disturbing and triggering here please step aside and take some time. We need to keep our inner peace no matter what we are doing as it is prerequisite for healing.

We have had some nice men from SA present here, some of them have established web sites for survivors of sexual abuse - maybe it could be helpful, if you like I could find their links?

Be well!

My story

#450777 - 10/21/13 01:52 PM Re: New member [Re: mikeg]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 4286
Loc: resettling in NE Ohio
hey, mike!

welcome and make yourself at home here. share what you can when you can - or just ask questions - whatever you are ready for. reach out and you will find many willing hands waiting to help you along.

hope to get to know you better,
How long, LORD, must I call for help, but you do not listen?
Or cry out to you, “Violence!” but you do not save?
Why do you make me look at injustice?
Why do you tolerate wrongdoing?...
Therefore the law is paralyzed, and justice never prevails....
Habakkuk 1:2-3

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