Hi, my fraternal brother.
Welcome to MS. Here you will receive compassion, understanding, love & hope, from your brothers (fraternal) & friends (in pain).
We all have been there, into the depths of of our soul & hell too.
We, will hear your cries, we will help in your fears & we will share in your tears.
We all start our journey in recovery at different ages and in different ways.
I was 69 1/2 years old when i started, wondering why now? Why couldn't i have carried this to my grave. I'm too old, too fragile emotionally, mentally & physically. Why now?
I'll take an excerpt from the guide book, Victims No Longer, credit Mike Lew for this sentence.
" Finally, try not to berate yourself for not having done this sooner, or feel the task is hopeless. You couldn't have done it a minute earlier. You simply weren't ready."
MS has a lot to offer you on your journey, there are healing circles twice a week. You can come here in the public side & read others stories & somewhere you will find one simmilar to yours. There is a vast amount of wisdom & courage in those stories and perhaps they will be of a help to you. There is a chat site & you can even have a private chat with someone whom has your trust & confidence. You get to pick & chose bits & pieces of help that might pertain to you from your other fraternal brothers here.
Then there are those emotionally, mentally & physically exhausting Weekends of Recovery. (WoR's), they aren't for everyone, just another tool at our disposal on our journey in finding ourselfs.
There are numerous books at our disposal, you can either buy them or perhaps your local library has them for check out.
Here are a few that i have at my disposal.
Abused Boys, The neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse, by Mic Hunter.
Broken Boys/Mending Men, by Stephen D. Grubman-Black.
Victims No Longer, by Mike Lew (considered to be the bible in healing by some.)
Beyond Betrayal, by Richard B. Gartner,Ph.D.
Evicting the Perpetrator, by Ken Singer, MSW.
All excellent guide books & very overpowering as well.
So there you have it my fraternal brother jflay.
Be prepaired for the emotional roller coaster ride of your life.
For me in these past five years a young boy named Pete has taken me from the infinity of the heavens to the gate of hell & everywhere in between. I'm glad that i didn't take this to my grave, as i would have never known me.
Welcome aboard the journey to healing, you are on your way, my brother, jflay.
"I will take that lost boys hand, and I will lead him from the depths of darkness, into the sunshine, forever into eternity." As he is me.
Working Boys' Home 10-14 yrs old, grades 5-8. 1949-1953
A very humble alumni of the WOR Dahlonega, GA.
May 15-17 2009, Alta, Sep. 2009. Sequoia, 2010.
Hope Springs, 2010.