Good post. I agree it feels really good when you can offer some sort of perspective and support to others who are struggling with csa. So many of my friends over the years have come to me with their abuse story after realizing that I was abused as a kid and got help. being able to encourage other survivors and reassure their familys has been really rewarding for me.
I remember after I started therapy and it was so painful there was a point I wanted to quit. But then I thought about my little sister who was abused as well and realized that I wanted to show her that healing was possible. I wanted to get myself to a good place so that if she ever needed me I could be there for her and encourage her in a positive direction.
Its kind of funny. You would think after all I've been through and all H has seen me support others through that he would feel safe talking to me. He and I have been through a lot a similar things. I guess for men the thought of being so raw in front of the woman you love can be scary. I'm glad you were able to connect and help a friend it sounds like progress to me!
I have not told my wife. She knows lots of bad things happened.
I just can't bring myself to telling my wife I was servicing some 15 year old when I was 8.
I don't think I need to. She can know that CSA happened but I don't want her knowing details. Ever wondering if she is doing something he did to me.
Can of worms.
As long as I can heal and be a good husband and happy person, I think that is what works for me.