Update almost a year later.
My little brother got married in April and he wanted me and my younger sister to come out to Calif. for the wedding. I just couldn't force myself to go since I learned about the abuse, I made up an excuse why I couldn't go but my younger sister did go. She stayed for 2 weeks and had a grand time & went on and on about it. While she was there, my son said to me, "I bet she & my brother will get into the wine one evening & he will spill the beans to her". Well, after she got home from her fun filled time and told us what a good time she had had, I couldn't take it anymore. I decided that I would have a meeting with my 2 sisters. I did a lot of research on the effects of child sexual abuse and made copies for both of them with a photo of my son when he was 5 yrs. old. As it turned out, my brother did tell her his version of the abuse and she never said a word to me when she came back from her trip. When I requested a meeting with both sisters, she had informed the other sister what it was about. So when I walked into the meeting, they already knew. BACKFIRE someone said, well that's what happened. The sister who attended the wedding attacked my son with a pretty rotten story about something did at a stag party when he was in his 20's which she said I told her. Well I never heard the story before and another incident that was harmless but her objective was to attack my son instead of support him. My other sister blamed his behavior on the fact that his father and I were divorced, accused us of smoking pot in front of him and my son witnessing his father hitting me. These things did not occur in my sons presence, ever. I didn't enter into this meeting with them in anger, I just tried to educate them so that they could understand why my son has the drinking problem, the eating problem, the anxiety, the insecurity, the low self worth, anger issues and so on. They didn't get it!! So now I'm not speaking to the sister who attacked him and my other sister is more upset that this abuse issue of my 5 yr old baby has broken up the family!My son is aware of all of this now and it only confirms what he has felt all along, his own family doesn't like him. He actually apologized to my brother because now he may never be able to come back home to see his family. I told my son that "He doesn't owe anyone an apology especially my brother!
I've begged him to seek some professional help and that his dad and I would do anything to help, I've even given him this website, but he refuses to check it out. I'm at a loss in more ways than one:( I Apologize for this lengthy post.