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#382665 - 01/18/12 05:29 AM Re: DAY TWENTY SIX [Re: whome]
whome Offline

Registered: 05/07/11
Posts: 1739
Loc: Johannesburg South Africa
Sorry for the hiatus


OK tough one today.
Everyone has an excuse for his actions, we see it every day. We are happy to carry on doing wrong things until we are caught.
This is not about being caught, this is about taking responsibility for our actions, confessing before we are caught, being honest with ourselves and our partners.
We always feel that our views are correct, or more correct than our partners. We are trying the best that we can, and our partners better just accept that, and be happy that we are as good to them as we are.
But love doesn't pass the blame or Justify selfish motives.

Today's Challenge

Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing. Ask for Gods forgiveness, then humble yourself and admit them to your partner. Do it sincerely and truthfully. Ask your Partner for forgiveness to.
No Matter how they respond, make sure you cover your responsibility in love. Even if they respond in criticism, accept it by receiving it as council.

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#445168 - 08/23/13 01:22 AM Re: 40 Steps to saving your marriage [Re: whome]
victor-victim Offline

Registered: 09/27/03
Posts: 6384
Loc: 𝒪 𝒦anada
this is all excellent advice.

good techniques which i am certain will gain positive results.

will i be able to stick to the program without messing up my marriage more than it already is?

we will see.

my wife has put up with too much crap from me.
i am not the nicest person in the world,
and i am not easy to get along with.
she deserves so much better.
we have had a lot of problems throughout the 25 years we have been together.
can't tell you what keeps us going.
the kids?
i know i still love her.
i know she still loves me.

we just don't seem to like each other.
every attempt to reconcile turns into an argument.

she refuses to get any kind of counseling.
some people do not want outside help.
my wife is an extremely private person.
she barely opens up to me.

i will try these methods you have outlined here.

thanks whome


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