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#443681 - 08/07/13 09:44 PM A movie title---and a sudden trigger
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Edited by Suwanee (02/26/16 10:44 AM)
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"His voice rose under the black smoke before the burning wreckage of the island; and infected by that emotion, the other little boys began to shake and sob too. And in the middle of them....Ralph wept for the end of innocence, the darkness of man’s heart…”. -----William Golding

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#443684 - 08/07/13 10:25 PM Re: A movie title---and a sudden trigger [Re: Suwanee]
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I can barely imagine how chilling it must have been to think of the real chance of having been given a fatal disease from an attack by a brutal criminal. Not just the disease itself but that everyone would know what happened - what was done to you. '80s TV and movies were full of Death By AIDS. And you couldn't even have inconspicuously gotten an immediate test.... That's a sort of fear that you remember even after the cause is gone, even after the answer is no. The worries you must have had.... it might explain some of the early acting-out ie teenaged binge drinking. I wonder if it also laid a foundation for compulsively signing up for invasive and degrading medical research.

You know, even when I'd basically figured out what had been done to me... I never got tested for anything. Never even considered it. I can only presume I was still detached enough and had gone long enough in good health that it would never ever have occurred to me, because it didn't.
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#443692 - 08/07/13 11:04 PM Re: A movie title---and a sudden trigger [Re: SoccerStar]
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Matt,

I'm certain the early acting out was related to this---the fear, the anger...
I did really, really stupid stuff...things "smart" kids weren't supposed to do. Later at age 15 I knew I was okay...and got an answer which relieved my mind tremendously.

I think the college student experiment stuff (psychological guinea pig/medical) was "plain" old acting out in my own hidden way. This was coincidentally correlated with my "rejoining" the trajectory.

Will



Edited by Suwanee (08/07/13 11:05 PM)
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"His voice rose under the black smoke before the burning wreckage of the island; and infected by that emotion, the other little boys began to shake and sob too. And in the middle of them....Ralph wept for the end of innocence, the darkness of man’s heart…”. -----William Golding

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#443697 - 08/07/13 11:35 PM Re: A movie title---and a sudden trigger [Re: Suwanee]
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*Possible Triggers*

I know that fear Suwanee. Oddly enough, soon after the flood of recovered memories/connection to abuse occurred I began acting out with men. I was always afraid of STDs, HIV especially, but continued on with the behavior on occasion until eventually nipping it in the bud a couple months back. And even then it had been a long time since the previous incident. Nevertheless, here I am with a folder on my desktop entitled "test date" where I will be getting tested for STD's and even though the behavior I engaged in was less risky than unprotected anal sex it was still unprotected. It will be a good day when I get the negative results back here in a few weeks at the 3 month mark.

One of the most upsetting, nay infuriating aspects of CSA for me is the fact that it basically tricks us into engaging in dangerous activities be they sexual, drug related, or direct destruction to our body (i.e. cutting, fighting, etc.).
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#443702 - 08/08/13 12:32 AM Re: A movie title---and a sudden trigger [Re: Suwanee]
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I remember when that movie was broadcast. I couldn't watch it in it's entirety. I was flipping through the channels and saw it. I watched a little bit, but was overcome with fear and shame, and had to change the channel. After I would calm down I'd turn it back on and watch some more only to have the same reaction. At the time, I was trying my damndest to bury all memories of my abuse. I didn't want to remember anything or even acknowledge that it had happened to me. Not only did seeing the TV show bring back memories, I thought if people knew I watched it, the would be able to figure out that I had been abused. It was ridiculous to think that a logical reaction to my stating that I watched the movie would be that someone would know I was a CSA victim. It was even more ridiculous because I thought anyone walking down the street would know that I had seen the movie and that I had been abused. I think about how stupid that line of thinking is, but I was alone, scared and didn't know how to handle things. Times have changed. If that movie were made today, it would not even elicit a reaction. I can look back and see how damaged I was. It does make me sad to think how many years I wasted by denying any damage from the CSA.

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#444608 - 08/18/13 03:57 PM . [Re: Suwanee]
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#444939 - 08/21/13 01:56 PM Re: A movie title---and a sudden trigger [Re: JoeSmith]
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Thanks for the compliment. I also appreciate your earlier comments---I meant to thank you earlier, but I've been immersed in a lot of work projects.

Will
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#445144 - 08/22/13 05:26 PM . [Re: Suwanee]
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