Article Extract: "You can see where Iím going with this. By steady and open inquiry, the mother would have learned that the new Scout leader was sexually abusing her son."
You know, in reality it is so hard to tell if a child is trying to tell you something, and hard to get a response, it isn't as easy as that article makes out.
I've had suspicions from things some kids have talked about in the past, as a survivor myself I don't know if it is easier or harder for me to tell if something is wrong, there is always a risk of seeing things that aren't there (some survivors may be hyper-sensitive to the matter, although I guess at the same time more familiar with the signs).
In reality (in general) I don't think kids would be as open in their responses as that article makes out. Do you think you would have been that open under questioning? I know I wouldn't have said anything. I know lots of survivors who would have done anything to stop people from finding out (for various reasons).
I do appreciate that the article is encouraging people to inquire and probe, but i'm just pointing out that the article is quite naÔve and parents who couldn't tell shouldn't feel like failures or that it was their fault- it isn't easy. I know lots of people here ask the questions "how couldn't anybody possible see what was happening to me because of a, b ,c", and partly it was a lack of knowledge and probing yes, there are "signs", but even knowing the signs, it isn't easy.